Anyone care to share how having your kids at different schools from each other affects their relationship? Does it give them each space to spread their wings in a place where they are not known as someone's little brother or someone's older sister? Or does it make them less close at home over time because they have fewer common experiences? Or something else entirely? Thanks in advance.
What ages/grades are you talking about? By middle school, I think it gives them their own space, which is nice - especially if they're close in age.
Thanks. I have one in late elementary school, one in early middle. And an opportunity to have them at two different schools which seem to fit their strengths and styles best. I just don't want to do it if it will jeopardize their close bond.
np: I have the same concerns. Ours went to the same elementary until older DC went to MS. We now may send younger (opposite sex DC) to SS and I worry about this too.
My kids were only in the same school for one year. When they were in K & 2nd. Then they ended up at different G&T programs in elementary and went to different middle schools. The schools they attended seemed to fit their personalities. They are in 10th and 8th now and it was never a big deal to them.
How did they end up in different g&ts? I thought sibs had preference?
@Anonymous. I assume her younger kid got into a Citywide.
I was never really at the same school as my sister. We still spent WAY too much time together ;)
Maybe it's better for the kids? Hard to know. But I can tell you it creates many challenges for the parents. DH and I feel disconnected to both our kids' private schools. We barely have time to keep up with the emails and announcements. And with COVID schedules, protocols etc, this has been a real burden. If they were at one school our lives would be much easier.
I'm struggling with this too. My kids went to elementary together and really loved the shared experience. But my older one tested into Hunter, and I'm unsure whether to have #2 take the test. He won't get in (he just won't), and I worry it will always make him feel bad.
Depends on the age. Mine were in ES together, it was nice for me and them, certainly easier. By MS they were in different schools and it was a good thing as it allowed them to discover their own talents, interests, spread their wings and make their own paths. Now they are in the same HS by their own choosing.