DF and I have been debating this question: if a young dc is having problems with another student at school (hitting, etc), do you approach the parent (whom you don’t know but seems nice enough) or do you approach the teacher? What say you, UB?
I had this situation - in my daughter’s case it was a friend at school who continually grabbed/manhandled her. I reached out to the teacher, who was great. She counseled my daughter on how to handle and let her know she could demand the friend to stop and that the teacher would have her back and she also worked with the friend to mitigate her behavior.
Interesting! I started off thinking parent so as not to unnecessarily tag the kid with the teacher, but then changed my mind and also thought teacher. Why do you think it should be the teacher?
@Anonymous parents can be defensive and refuse to believe you. the teacher presumably is seeing some of the behavior and probably will have more credibility approaching the parent than you. Also they should be involved in case there are ways they can help ameliorate the problem (separate the kids, etc.)
@Anon These are very good points. DF wanted teacher just to avoid confronting the parent! But I think you've raised really good substantive reasons for choosing teacher. We both went back and forth, but I ultimately told her I also came down on the side of teacher. Just because the teacher is more likely to be able to say if this is characteristic (and something needs to be done) or a one-off situation.
I had this situation - in my daughter’s case it was a friend at school who continually grabbed/manhandled her. I reached out to the teacher, who was great. She counseled my daughter on how to handle and let her know she could demand the friend to stop and that the teacher would have her back and she also worked with the friend to mitigate her behavior.
teacher.