How necessary is it to do a "first choice" letter if you are truly torn over which might be the right school? Afraid of missing an opportunity if we do not but having anxiety trying to make the decision.
Parents league told me NOT to do a FC letter, said schools don’t love them and have been burned so many times by them. They did say to write a letter though, to all schools to which we applied, love the school etc. an ILY letter I guess. This was for MS though.
thanks for the reply. I would prefer to just wait but I've heard then we are risking missing a spot. Maybe I'll reach out to the PL for their advice re K this year.
I have always understood that you should send a FC only if it's truly your first choice. If I were you, I would just make up my mind now and go ahead and send the FC letter. It might make the difference and you'll have to make up your mind at some point. But time is ticking and if you truly cannot decide and want them to decide for you, then just send two very specific, detailed ILY letters and then wait to hear. GL! It's nerve wracking.
I think this is great advice re: sending two if you can't decide. Plus, some schools literally say on their website they don't want the FC letter. If you're at a connected preschool, have your PSD do some digging. Last week ours asked if we would commit to X school, but without knowing feedback from others we like, we told her we can't say 100%. So she's just gonna try to keep them satisfied with that. We'll see?!
But otherwise, if not at connected preschool, send some detailed ILYs and I think that's all you can do? PL can be helpful for this kind of thing, but not sure it's worth paying for the year when you've only got two weeks left before decisions.
This whole first choice letter and brokering seems unfair. DC went to a preschool where most of the kids continued on at public schools and only a few applied to private K. So I have not personally experienced PSD brokering. From my outside view, it just doesn't seem right for a PSD to be powerful enough to broker kids. I understand they don't want 5 kids to get into 4 schools each and another 5 kids to get nothing. But still...
Edited to add: applying to K
Parents league told me NOT to do a FC letter, said schools don’t love them and have been burned so many times by them. They did say to write a letter though, to all schools to which we applied, love the school etc. an ILY letter I guess. This was for MS though.
thanks for the reply. I would prefer to just wait but I've heard then we are risking missing a spot. Maybe I'll reach out to the PL for their advice re K this year.
We are applying for K this year. Parents League told us to just do ILY letters
I have always understood that you should send a FC only if it's truly your first choice. If I were you, I would just make up my mind now and go ahead and send the FC letter. It might make the difference and you'll have to make up your mind at some point. But time is ticking and if you truly cannot decide and want them to decide for you, then just send two very specific, detailed ILY letters and then wait to hear. GL! It's nerve wracking.
I think this is great advice re: sending two if you can't decide. Plus, some schools literally say on their website they don't want the FC letter. If you're at a connected preschool, have your PSD do some digging. Last week ours asked if we would commit to X school, but without knowing feedback from others we like, we told her we can't say 100%. So she's just gonna try to keep them satisfied with that. We'll see?!
But otherwise, if not at connected preschool, send some detailed ILYs and I think that's all you can do? PL can be helpful for this kind of thing, but not sure it's worth paying for the year when you've only got two weeks left before decisions.
This whole first choice letter and brokering seems unfair. DC went to a preschool where most of the kids continued on at public schools and only a few applied to private K. So I have not personally experienced PSD brokering. From my outside view, it just doesn't seem right for a PSD to be powerful enough to broker kids. I understand they don't want 5 kids to get into 4 schools each and another 5 kids to get nothing. But still...