All our friends are hanging out with no precautions. We feel strongly this is not safe. No one will accommodate us (social distance or mask if close by) and it's very hurtful. FWIW this is a group of friends who all met through me and DH and have now effectively shut us out (burbs). We don't preach to them and I don't question their judgment. Just hurt they can't be a bit flexible in some activities. WWYD? Am I overreacting?

So I’m one of the ones who doesn’t take precautions anymore, other than what is legally required in public (eg masks). If you’re not ready to be around people living normally again, I think you need to accept that your social options may be limited. You’d likely be uncomfortable around each other too. I let my kids play with no distancing or masks, no adults wear masks inside, we hug, we share platters of food, etc. I don’t want to be judged by someone in my own home, and it sounds like you would be uncomfortable.
Even if you think you aren't judging or preaching, there's a strong possibility it may be coming off that way. My friends were all reunited for the first time this weekend at an event that had what most of us considered to be very reasonable precautions-- one couple clearly was not comfortable being there and it was a bit awkward. totally get you're in a weird situation but like the above poster said, you probably wouldn't be comfortable if you ended up going to hang out with them, even if they took additional precautions.
I'm like you--we're still being pretty strict with social distancing/masking measures. I was invited to a small dinner at a friend's house and had been told there would be social distancing; there wasn't. It was outdoors in his back yard, but I had to drink a LOT of wine to not be stressed the whole time! I wouldn't take it personally that your friends won't mask up to make you comfortable--they're just ready and we're just not. I'd just try to see them on Zoom or FaceTime or in one-on-one outdoor situations so you don't feel totally left out.
I am like you most of my friends are hanging out now together with no precautions. I understand how you feel, I feel hurt sometimes too, But it's really a matter of us (you and I) being on different pages with them. If we wanted to hang out w them and not take precautions guarantee they would love to have us. But we are making a different decision and that's ok.
I don’t take precautions anymore and very thankful for the few people I have to hang out with. You can wear a mask or just stay home. I’m sad about my friends who have been super strict and not coming out at all. We chat in the phone but it’s not the same