If you are invited as a guest (and are not a member of the congregation who would attend the Zoom service anyway), you/your kids should look presentable (no jeans or t-shirts, just out of respect), and yes, I would send a gift. Some multiple of $18 in a card. The Bar Mitzvah kid worked hard, and the gifts go to him, not to pay for a party.
Thanks - the invite was not for the service, but a Zoom party afterwards. I think that is such a funny comment, that the Bar Mitzvah kid worked hard so he deserves a gift from another kid. As if a 13 year old is acknowledging his hard work.
@jen She meant that it's a gift on this milestone occasion, not a gift to cover the cost of a plate.
I'm not. And no not sending gifts. however I don't know these people well - I feel like it was an invitation to the synagogue as a whole and not to us personally. We haven't been invited to their kids bar mitzvahs before Covid or vice versa.
What is the protocol for Zoom Bar Mitzvahs? Do kids dress up? Do we send a traditional gift?
My kid has been invited to 10 of these. People should only invite close family IMO. It's one thing if your kid is getting to go to a fun party, another to wake up at 8am on a Saturday morning to watch yet another Zoom.