maybe. would depend on age of kids and salary. but i have taken 2 jobs that required intense effort and time away from kids for period of time followed by 'reward' period of less intensity and higher salary and have not regretted bc they propelled my career and I earned more as a result. if you feel that this is such an opp then it may be worth it.
@Anonymous op: I have one 12 yo dc. This position would really help my career in the long run. I am seriously considering it but really concerned about leaving dc for so many days out of the week.
@Anonymous is your husband on board and will his job allow him enough time to parent your kid while you are away? is she doing remote school or in person?
@Anon op: she’s doing remote for now. Dh isn’t thrilled about it, but he‘s willing to take on the responsibility. I have relatives that will also help dh a lot. They’re willing to stay overnight if necessary and willing to watch dc while dh is working.
If you have kids, then no. That's a long time to be away.
@Anonymous op: yes I have a 12 yo. Thanks for your perspective.
Interesting to me that there are still (post covid) jobs where you need to train in person for that long. There are circumstances where I would consider this, 6 months is not that long in the scheme of things.
With one 12 year old child, absolutely.
Yes, 12 yo is relatively independent. Are you off and able to be with kid the other 3 days of the week? Six months is not that long, and it may be worth the payoff in terms of career advancement and ability to WFH.
Op: yes the plan would be to work Mon through Thursday and return home Thursday night. I’d return to work on either Sunday night or Monday very early in the morning.
@Anonymous np. I would do it. It's not such a log period and you can be home to spend more time M-Th.
If You have help and DH is with your child then I don't see why you shouldn't take this on. It's less than a year and it will help your career long-term.
Op: thank you....that’s how I feel but the mom guilt might be rough.
@Anonymous I man would not be even wondering about this.
@Anon I think it's a little sad that it should be a difficult (not talking about just OP but this hypothetical for all WOHMs). You're right a man would not wonder at all about it and no one would question him doing it. Can we not trust a dad (who also has other family help) to adequately parent a 12 yo 4 days a week? If a mom can't do this with one 12 yo, when can she?
I wouldn’t But that’s just my personal preference. I wouldn’t want to miss my kids - I already work hard and think I never see them enough, but maybe WFH option afterwards would make it worth it? IDK. Anyway, there is no way that I would travel during the pandemic, but that’s also a personal choice. I think you have to decide these two things by yourself or maybe with DH. I don’t think you should take my or someone else’s opinion here.
Op: thanks....I was just wondering how many moms would do it.
I would do it. 6 months will fly by, and the rewards last for the rest of your career and into retirement. You have a 12 yo and family help. Everyone will be fine.
I would love the option to work from home down the road so would probably do it, however, I traveled about once a month for 3 days for a few years and I absolutely hated it. It made me very depressed And cranky. Knowing that it is temporary might alleviate those feelinga though. Good luck!!
I’m a full time WOHM while DH is a full time parent. I actually did this for over a year when DCs were young. I would leave on Tuesday 6am and get back friday mornings. It wasn’t great from a family perspective, but ultimately it was a short period of time and totally worthwhile as it launched my career to another level. It’s really hard to make decisions as a WOHM but your child will be grown soon and you’ll have more time for your career. Mine is important to me as I get so bored being a parent. Good luck!
I would 100% take the opportunity. You'll be home every week to see you family (you'd miss dh too I guess?) and can give them very focussed attention then. Once this very short time is over you'll have a better job and better working circumstances. Plus, at 12 she is not so happy to see you anyway.