Am I nuts to want a 2nd child at 43? Would I run out of energy to parent them well? Feeling ok now health and energy wise, but not sure how I'll be in 5 or 10 years. Older DC is 3. Anyone BTDT?
Go for it. I had my second at 38 and I was never that energetic, not in my 20s or early 30s . I think it’s nice for kids to have a sibling so if you want one you should do it.
My mom had me (only child) at 43. She did fine. It really wasn’t a big deal until now bc my parents need more support whereas my younger inlaws are still super active and independent. But it’s still totally fine and I am so grateful they are still around. My mom was so worried she wouldn’t live long enough to see me graduate, get married, have kids, but she has made it through all of these things, thankfully.
I'm just a little bit younger than you and the idea of having another dc now seems crazy to me BUT my dc are a lot older than yours and I think that's key. You're still in the thick of it anyway and it's nice to have siblings. You wouldn't be starting over, just setting back by a couple years and your dcs would be close in age. You should do it but do it right away. Also, don't get too attached to the outcome. It may or may not happen at your age and you should make peace either way. The last thing you want to do is waste these next few years torturing yourself trying to make something happen if it's not meant to be. If I were you, I'd give myself 6 months to try naturally and then move on.
I’d say get yourself an acupuncturist specializing on fertility issues asap. That might help with a healthy outcome as well. I personally wouldn’t do IVF. But the chances of getting pregnant all on your own without any help are slim at 43.
Go for it. I had my second at 38 and I was never that energetic, not in my 20s or early 30s . I think it’s nice for kids to have a sibling so if you want one you should do it.
do it! i don't think that's too old.
My mom had me (only child) at 43. She did fine. It really wasn’t a big deal until now bc my parents need more support whereas my younger inlaws are still super active and independent. But it’s still totally fine and I am so grateful they are still around. My mom was so worried she wouldn’t live long enough to see me graduate, get married, have kids, but she has made it through all of these things, thankfully.
Talk to your doctor re: any risks to you, genetic risks, etc, vis a vis age. This will help you make an informed decision weighing risks and benefits.
I'm just a little bit younger than you and the idea of having another dc now seems crazy to me BUT my dc are a lot older than yours and I think that's key. You're still in the thick of it anyway and it's nice to have siblings. You wouldn't be starting over, just setting back by a couple years and your dcs would be close in age. You should do it but do it right away. Also, don't get too attached to the outcome. It may or may not happen at your age and you should make peace either way. The last thing you want to do is waste these next few years torturing yourself trying to make something happen if it's not meant to be. If I were you, I'd give myself 6 months to try naturally and then move on.
This is very good advice. Get a fertility monitor and try seriously, see what happens.
I’d say get yourself an acupuncturist specializing on fertility issues asap. That might help with a healthy outcome as well. I personally wouldn’t do IVF. But the chances of getting pregnant all on your own without any help are slim at 43.