I know we're all in the same boat, but I'm feeling down. DD will be leaving for college at the end of the summer (at this point, anyway) and we'll be empty nesters. Some days I'm excited and ready for the change, other days I'm really sad that this phase of life is over. She's already got one foot out the door--she's out a lot and even though she has some big things going on, she doesn't talk to me about it much. She and her long-term boyfriend broke up (they'll be off to different colleges) and while it started out okay, it's been bumpy and they aren't speaking. He's been a big part of our lives and we're friends with his parents so the whole thing is tough. And on top of it all, I think that college is going to be a bummer next year which makes me concerned about how it will go for her. I just feel bummed out lately.
Hang in there. I know it's hard, all these changes during what's already a tough time. But this too shall pass. FWIW, I had my fair share of 'bummed out' days as well.
Everyone is depressed right now. Try to take care of yourself.
Just saw on CNN that 1 in 4 adults is reporting symptoms of depression, up from 1 in 15 during precovid times.
I have young kids but I find your post to be so...normal! I'm always suspicious of the "Yay, we'll be empty nesters in 3 months!" posts--like, how the hell? I'm sure it's hard and the pandemic adds an extra layer of weirdness to it all, but really, just try to think of how exciting this time must be for her.
I see my future self in your post, if that helps at all......
College will certainly be different next year but not necessarily a bummer. Yes, fewer kids on campus, maybe more remote options, but she doesn't know anything different. And breaking up with her boyfriend is probably good in the long run. It's difficult now but it'll be better once she is off to college.
As for your pain, that's tough. My kids are young but I know I'll be a mess when they leave. Good luck on your next chapter!
OP. Thanks to all of you for your nice replies. I'm sure I'll adjust to the new reality, but it's not happening easily...
That’s because nobody knows WTF reality even is!!!