My aunt lives in NY and we invited her for thanksgiving so she wouldn’t be alone, also she’s like a grand parent to our kids and I love her very much. For years she has had a dysfunctional relationship with her third husband. They have separated several times including this summer when she filed for divorce and shared with us all the unsavory reasons why. Now they seem to be spending time together and she asked if we can include him. I’m already regretting inviting her over as our kids are in school a few days a week and I’m afraid of possibly infecting her. Then the stress of having her volatile husband here for the holiday is just too much. Whats the best way to decline?