https://ubarchive.net/ has a list of some places people have scattered to, including
NYCityMoms.com, you are here (lookin' good!)
DC Urban Moms specifically the Metro NYC sub forum
urbanbaby.net a possible UB clone under construction by a UBer (nothing up yet)
Reddit.com/r/urbanbaby/ is live again as of yesterday, but not very active.
This is the most active right now, except vs. the YBM main board, which is its own thing.
Thank you this is helpful. I tried youbemom and I found in incredibly try hard and not authentic
UBarchive maker here- do you think if I made a forum that worked just like UB used to work if people would use it, or has that ship sailed? it wouldn't be that hard, I've been messing around with some experiments... but I wonder if anyone would use it if they can't easily find it at urbanbaby.com. I could maybe do some search engine stuff to make it findable if people search urbanbaby, though.
(no insult to the Mod of this forum, it looks great and you did something so wonderful by getting it up in time for us to have somewhere to go!)
So far this one seems excellent. But it’s awesome to have the archive you created, so many, many thanks for that.
You and this Mod are awesome for trying to keep the old UB community together. I like this forum though. I'm hoping we get more traffic in the future.
I would jump in if you could figure out a way to bring back the UB posting way. It was so easy... This nycitymoms site is great too. And I really appreciate the mom who put so much effort into it and made it work, thank you!
Personally I prefer this forum. I also tried YBM before and decided it wasn’t for me. I do NOT think Reddit is a good choice—there are lots of things relating to women and women’s issues that we may not be able to discuss there because they violate their terms. Reddit heavily censors and shuts down feminist subreddits, for example. I think it’s best we have our own space here where we can make our own rules and police ourselves.
+1
I am getting used to this forum (it's like college confidential) and like YBM. I think Ubers who are turning their noses up at YBM would be like the Folgers taste Test--preconceived bias when it actually is pretty much the same thing. I think people who make blanket statements about YBM without spending time there are cherry picking posts to complain about.
YBM and UB co-existed for many years, so I don't think there's a problem with people being on both this site and YBM (or Reddit or whatever). It's not a competition -- they're just different. Personally, I like this site, and as former UB'ers find it and post more, it becomes more comfortable. Thank you, Mod.
Youbemom moves too fast. It’s good for scrolling but doesnt seem great for actually trying to get some responses/engagement. I personally like DCUM because I already frequent it but I kind of toggle between all of them now in addition to this site.
I MISS urbanbaby so much! if someone created a site like it I would definitely use it.
Don't you think this site is like UB? I think it's almost the same.
not as many people posting and a little less newsy so a little off but maybe that will change
Me too! I miss the old format but prefer the people gathering here to those on youbemom.
I've been slow to move over but think I'm committed to staying here vs the other options. Miss everyone :-)
Ditto!
I like that politics isn't banned here. firstly bc i don't think you can parent without politics in today's world, and secondly bc I work in politics!
I also like that you can write a longer post, which facilitates deeper conversations. At UB, it seemed like if someone wrote more than a sentence or two, people wouldn't respond, or would complain. And there was a word limit anyway. This site seems more accepting of more detailed discussions.
Like others have said here, I appreciate the longer format on this site. I don't like, however, how I have to click on each link to read something. I liked the scroll feature of UB. Especially on my phone.
I agree--I like the longer format, but sometimes miss the ability to scan a conversation on a thread as I'm scrolling. Overall, though, I like the new format and I'm so grateful that someone created an alternative space for us. I also like that we can discuss politics and other topics that got us banned on UB.