Op: she won’t eat my healthy meals. I make cauliflower rice but she wants real rice. I make cauliflower mash pot but she wants real potatoes. I make zucchini pasta with chicken but she wants real pasta. She just won’t eat it so I’m making two meals - one for me and one for her and dh (who also refuses healthy alternatives).
@Anonymous I get what you are dealing with. Either these responders have very obedient kids or they are trying to make you feel bad. Even I can't get DS to go on a walk with me. We even fought over this. I dragged him outside and he wanted to go back in 15 mins.
How old? I mean you say teen, but if she’s 16 or under, you can make her go on a walk with you. remember, you’re the parent. If she’s like 17+ then she’ll figure it out on her own. Btw, rice, potatoes, pasta etc are fine at this age.
I don't think anyone at any age should really eat white rice, potatoes, or pasta. This is why every second person has the metabolic syndrome and CVD is a reality waiting to happen.
That’s your insecurities talking. Sorry, absolutely nothing wrong with those foods. I mean a whole portion of the world eats them daily, with a much better health history than us ‘mericuns.
I hear this all the time - but look at countries like Italy, they eat pasta every day, prepared in a healthy way and appropriate portions- you dont find the obesity problem we have here. It's not the pasta or potatoes or rice to blame - it's lack of activity, its huge portions, its sugar and chemically laden, processed food. I think teaching balance would serve her well rather than branding certain foods off limits.
Thats exactly why OP is concerned.....that her DD is eating sugary baked goodies in larger portions, not moving, and refusing to eat veggies. An all out diet of junk foods will not only make her gain weight but will also make her prone to other health issues later in life. Nobody is debating eating sinfully in moderation, but it can't be 100% of the time. If you eat healthy 90% of the time, you can get away with eating unhealthy 10% of the time. But every time you do eat unhealthy, it does damage to your body.
Op: thank you....that’s exactly how I feel. I try to teach her every in moderation. I enjoy chips so if I have them, I make sure to eat a light, healthy dinner. She’ll have heavy dinner and then eat chips. Or big cupcake she baked. If I want a dessert, I’ll have one small sized cookie. She has a big one that she baked. I’m tired of fighting over food but don’t want her to gain 30lbs during the quarantine. She doesn’t even do the physical activity that her school has her do. She does them while sitting and thinks it’s funny that she can get away with it.
@Anonymous You need to let her live her way to the answer. If she gains weight, let her. She will become unhappy with it at some point, and then be in a frame of mind to hear what you have to say. But you hounding her about it won't help. It will only hurt.
Then she gains weight and she learns that lesson. Let her learn consequences. You can’t shield her from the results of her choices. And if she gains weight... ask yourself why that’s so terrible.
Do you have or have you had an ED in the past? This honestly sounds like a pretty extreme level of control you want.
Yes I have eating issues and am trying really hard not to pass it on.
Just don’t say anything. She’s a teen, she’ll figure it out. Offer veggies for snacks and cook healthy meals and let her have fun For goodness same.
Op: she won’t eat my healthy meals. I make cauliflower rice but she wants real rice. I make cauliflower mash pot but she wants real potatoes. I make zucchini pasta with chicken but she wants real pasta. She just won’t eat it so I’m making two meals - one for me and one for her and dh (who also refuses healthy alternatives).
Focus on being healthy versus attractive. Movement is important for so many things, go out for power walks together
Op: she refuses....I’ve asked her to come jogging with me, but she doesn’t want to.
@Anonymous I get what you are dealing with. Either these responders have very obedient kids or they are trying to make you feel bad. Even I can't get DS to go on a walk with me. We even fought over this. I dragged him outside and he wanted to go back in 15 mins.
@ Anonymous Same here. My 13 year old dd will not exercise either.
How old? I mean you say teen, but if she’s 16 or under, you can make her go on a walk with you. remember, you’re the parent. If she’s like 17+ then she’ll figure it out on her own. Btw, rice, potatoes, pasta etc are fine at this age.
I don't think anyone at any age should really eat white rice, potatoes, or pasta. This is why every second person has the metabolic syndrome and CVD is a reality waiting to happen.
I think it’s more the endless bags of pork rinds and general physical inactivity.
Plenty of active, fit, healthy appearing people enjoy grains and root veggies, pasta, and even chocolate cake.
That’s your insecurities talking. Sorry, absolutely nothing wrong with those foods. I mean a whole portion of the world eats them daily, with a much better health history than us ‘mericuns.
I hear this all the time - but look at countries like Italy, they eat pasta every day, prepared in a healthy way and appropriate portions- you dont find the obesity problem we have here. It's not the pasta or potatoes or rice to blame - it's lack of activity, its huge portions, its sugar and chemically laden, processed food. I think teaching balance would serve her well rather than branding certain foods off limits.
Thats exactly why OP is concerned.....that her DD is eating sugary baked goodies in larger portions, not moving, and refusing to eat veggies. An all out diet of junk foods will not only make her gain weight but will also make her prone to other health issues later in life. Nobody is debating eating sinfully in moderation, but it can't be 100% of the time. If you eat healthy 90% of the time, you can get away with eating unhealthy 10% of the time. But every time you do eat unhealthy, it does damage to your body.
Op: thank you....that’s exactly how I feel. I try to teach her every in moderation. I enjoy chips so if I have them, I make sure to eat a light, healthy dinner. She’ll have heavy dinner and then eat chips. Or big cupcake she baked. If I want a dessert, I’ll have one small sized cookie. She has a big one that she baked. I’m tired of fighting over food but don’t want her to gain 30lbs during the quarantine. She doesn’t even do the physical activity that her school has her do. She does them while sitting and thinks it’s funny that she can get away with it.
@Anonymous You need to let her live her way to the answer. If she gains weight, let her. She will become unhappy with it at some point, and then be in a frame of mind to hear what you have to say. But you hounding her about it won't help. It will only hurt.
Then she gains weight and she learns that lesson. Let her learn consequences. You can’t shield her from the results of her choices. And if she gains weight... ask yourself why that’s so terrible.
That was my dd at beginning of quarantine and now she has a huge eating disorder. Pick your poison sister and let it play out.