My 82 year old dad lives in upstate NY, and I live out of state. He became single 5 years ago after a 40 year relationship that had run its course, and now lives alone. I visit him several times a year, and he spends Christmas with my family and comes to visit us other times as well. Unbeknownst to me, sometime in the past 6-8 months this he took in a sick, opoid addicted woman that he met about 3 years ago on an escort site. She and her 15 year old son had been living at his house until I came for a visit last week to help him plan and host a party that he holds every year. I arrived to find the house a complete disaster. Over the next few days, I had the house remediated, got myself a hotel room and found out that the woman had moved into a seedy hotel, has late stage cervical cancer, and that my dad felt very attached to her and wanted to figure out supports for her, but did not want to have her in his house. The son is with friends and has his own issues -not in school, likely dealing drugs. I got in contact with her, and visited her at the hotel - she was in really bad shape, and I managed to convince her to get to the ER. We have struck up an unlikely friendship and I have been by her side at the hospital while we wait for a diagnosis, but she likely has stage 4 cervical cancer. She has no parents or other supports, and has really messed up her life - despite all that, I truly believe she’s not a grifter, more a really lost victim of a lot of crap. The kicker is that I am now her healthcare proxy. I am completely in over my head - I want to support her as a human who should not die alone, and I need to figure out plans for my dad (who obviously is not making good decisions). TLDR - I visited my dad to help plan a party and am now helping a dying woman as her healthcare proxy. There are many more details here (calls with dad’s lawyer, etc) but this is the abbreviated version of my past 10 days. I am trying to do the right thing by all involved, but this is overwhelming.