How do you cope with feelings about your kid's friend's rude behavior? I really do care about this kid, he and 11yo DS have been friends for 6 years. He's spent countless hours at my house. But while I can often contextualize it (tired/hungry/upset about something else) this was not the case. The kid was bored and maybe upset he wasn't the center of attention and acted out rudely at my son's birthday party. The mom didn't manage it well either... but even though that's not the kid's fault, I'm still mad about the situation a day later which is unlike me.
Most people in the community think this boy is a jerk and roll their eyes when I try to defend him. I keep hoping he'll mature and get nicer as he gets older but it's not happening. He still pouts and lashes out like he did when he was little, if anything it's getting worse. But then I feel sorry for him b/c I think his parents are way too indulgent and he's turning into a spoiled brat because of them. Which makes me feel sorry for him but also he's really annoying.
Any BTDT or advice?