DS started K in September 2018. At the time I attended the orientation program with all the other parents, and then we were moved into smaller groups where I got to spend more time with that group.
About six months later I attended a fund raiser and met more people. With one of the moms I said ‘nice to meet you’ and she barked at me in response that we met previously. Since then, so for two years, she has completely ignored me and blanks me if we’re at an event or pick up, which is not that often as I work full time and nanny does drop off and pick up. This week she reached out to me and asked me to help her with an interview she has coming up?!
I don’t even know how to respond or if I should just ignore her. WWYD?
I would probably do something like say, wow, I thought you'd never speak to me again after I accidentally didn't remember we had met a few years ago and you didn't speak to me since. I'm happy to help you with the interview -- let me know what time works to chat. IOW, I would let her know that I know and remember and that was BS, but I would still help.
I like this - you go High while acknowledging her low. Perfect pairing
Hm. do you want your reputation linked to her? will it be more retribution if you refuse? I would weigh those two.
She seems to want guidance on how to position herself relative to this position, which is in my industry. But I dont really want to be involved with her. I’ve enough to do these days and shes never even been friendly to me
@Anonymous Take the high road. Can't hurt and might help. You don't have to refer her to a job or take major affirmative action to help, but answering questions seems like an easy, low key thing you can do and then file under the "you never know" category
I would ignore. There's no obligation to help and you never see her. Why get sucked into that nonsense.
Please ignore her. Take the high ride , by ignoring her. Unreal that she would even reach out to you. If she says anything in person act surprised
I know no one so secure in their position -- truly no one -- that burning a bridge just for the sake of it is worth it. But if you and the others on the thread are such people, good for you. Men I know don't do this type of thing -- they put such differences aside for the sake of good networking. YMMV.
This is not burning a bridge
@Anonymous How could you possibly know that? The woman may end up in a place where she could help OP, who would then be unable to call in the favor. The world is too small to get hung up on such nonsense. Help the woman a bit and move on for goodness sake.
I would try to help her. Some people are very insecure about not being remembered. Don't take it personally
Perhaps the mom was avoiding you not out of retribution or dislike but out of embarrassment or shame. It's not clear to me that her actions were meant to be malicious.
OP yes I don’t know what her deal is, I do try to see the good in people
OP yes I met someone once who said that nobody ever remembers her