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SIL wants to give teen dd some of her old dresses and bags. I told dh no that our dd doesn’t need them and now he’s pissed. Was I wrong? Tia
SIL wants to give teen dd some of her old dresses and bags. I told dh no that our dd doesn’t need them and now he’s pissed. Was I wrong? Tia
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Can't you just smile, take their crap, then throw it out after they leave? I get being annoyed, but their behavior won't stop. Just be medium chill and dispose of the their stuff.
My mom does this to me and drives me crazzzzzy. I've talked with her about it and it and she can't change so I just accept it and then donate it to Salvation army when I get it. She's a hoarder and the only way she feels that she can rid of stuff is if she find s a real home for it. Is it possible that's what's going on with them?
It can look bad if you are willing to accept a hand me down chanel or birkin bag while turning your nose up when it is not expensive.
Op: I don’t see it that way. It’s okay to not want their used clothing (even if it’s coming from a good place which I doubt it is). I want them to stop offering it to my dd because I want to put an end to it. If dh wants to accept their used belongings, that’s his choice.
I had a friend who was always trying to give me her old crap and it was very annoying. I’d prefer to have a dd who’s not interested in someone else’s junk and says a polite no thank you. There is no need to be particularly grateful to someone pawning off their old junk on you.
Jesus. You sound horrible, and utterly lacking in even a modicum of grace. The correct response is: thank you, delilah!! That was so nice of you! I’m so grateful that you thought of me. I wish I had room for it all, but I’m packed to the gills and trying to pare down!!
to the grandmother: thank you grandma! Did aunt delilah love playing with these toys when she was little? Tell me about them!
instead of: WTAF do I need all this USED s— for? What do I look like the Salvation Army? Why do you think I’d need or want your used crap? Donate it yourself So rude to saddle me with your shi—y cast offs.
what kind of dd would you prefer to have? Because you’re raising the latter.
Ok, so without a lot more detail, it sounds like you were maybe just clunky about it? On the surface an aunt offering to give dresses and bags to their niece is a really nice gesture. I think I would have asked DD in front of DH if she wanted them and let her answer. Then you or DH could have relayed to SIL that it was such a nice offer, but DD's closet is packed to the gills, but thank you so much anyway. It sounds like maybe you have issues with SIL to be so annoyed by a harmless offer? Or I'm missing something?
why not let your daughter decide if she wants them?