WTF?! Why are people paying so much money to live in small houses with mediocre schools (With limited in person right now). And consider themselves "cultured"? Sure people are friendly here but I never see a person of color. Sure it's great not to see homeless people but don't tell me you're in touch and liberal and compassionate and then never wear a mask. I think I would go numb living here even though I have very nice friends who left NYC to do it.


Where are you taking about?
I couldn't do suburbia. Give me urban, or rural with 4 seasons and interesting topography!
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Southern Westchester towns.
You do you
We just moved to after decades in the city. We are very happy so far and think it was the best decision for us, although moved to a burb with lots of character.
I think that is great. I am curious - what constitutes a burb with character? Not being rude just genuinely curious.
OP: im speaking from experience of growing up out here. Until I got to college I had no idea how privileged I was, how much minorities suffered - even the accomplished ones - no concept that people's parents wouldn't fully pay for tuition. There's no way to be out here and be fully in touch. There just isn't.
You're so enlightened, aren't you !?
No, I openly admitted to being privileged. If I was not privileged how could I have afforded to even rent. It's some self-reflection.
What makes you think people are trying to be or appear "cultured"? Most are just trying to find what makes them happy. Which might differ from what makes you happy, go figure. If you grew up oblivious to disparities, that's on your parents.
Yup, was just going to mention parents. It's really up to them and us now. I grew up solidly middle class in a homogeneous pocket of an outer borough. My friend down the street did foreign exchange her Jr. year of HS and her mom worked with the developmentally disabled, speaking regularly with her about social justice before we had that word in our modern vocabulary. Mine chose to chain smoke, shop at the mall, spoil me - yet love me to pieces. It's really your folks - I honestly believe this.
@Anonymous everyone just has to do what they think is best for their family. It’s obnoxious to criticize either choice. There is no “better “. Everything sucks right now. We just need to be compassionate and kind to everyone- city, suburbs .
I would agree that many people are overpaying for homes due to covid. I guess if they can afford it, then so be it. totally agree re: parents. I grew up in the suburbs and feel that I am open minded bc of my upbringing and racial background, not necessarily bc of where I grew up - although being close to a city was nice for school trips/exposure.