1) Does a private school ever ask you your opinion on whether or not a friend (or whoever) said they know you as to whether or not their kid should be accepted? i.e., if a family is to your kids' school, and you think the kid is a bad match, but the family is using you as a reference. Would you say as much to the school?
2) Ever turned down a request to write a recommendation for middle or high school (for the school your kids are at)? If so how'd you refuse?