Recently, a DF divorced her DH over abuse. I had absolutely no idea that was going on, and feel awful. Thought they were a great couple and in a happy relationship. I was surprised that DF never hinted that anything was a problem. On reflection, I realized that I never speak negatively about DH to anyone, either. When we went through rough patches (no abuse!), I just dealt with it on my own. Do you speak about DH to anyone? If not, how would you sort through relationship issues?