What's the issue with making sure the teachers are vaccinated first? I'm kind of out of the loop on how the vaccine process is going (since I'm not even eligible yet, lol), but do teachers want to wait for the vaccine? Do they not meet the threshold for elibillity for the first round? Genuinely curious.
@anonymous I have no issue at all with teachers wanted to be vaccinated before they return, but I've read multiple articles quoting teachers and union heads saying they won't go back until KIDS are all vaccinated, which won't happen before 2022.
I didn't need to read this article to know that life as a mother during this pandemic is a brutal hellscape. But I'm glad it was written, and thank you for posting it.
I just noticed the kid hanging from the closet bar while the mom tries to work -- so funny. But also so real. This can be really, really, REALLY hard friends.
@BrooklynMom HAHA! A friend told me the most hilarious story: do you remember the scene from the Incredibles where the mom is screaming, BOB! I need you to ENGAGE! we were laughing and laughing about that and she said that the other day, she was telling her DH -- screaming from another room -- PLEASE HELP! I NEED you to come out and ENGAGE! and her little dc said, Hold on Mommy. Alexa! Broadcast! and then dc whispered: ok, now say it again. HAHAHAHA!!!
Oh, man--I didn't listen to the audio, but read the article, and it actually hurt to read.
But again, WTF with these men? In at least 2 of the 3 cases, the fathers are not really pulling their weight as parents. I don't care if they're the breadwinners or how many jobs they work--a mom would feel compelled, even in those situations, to actually parent her kids. Making less $$ at a job doesn't necessarily mean the expectations are loosened, and any adult knows that. In fact, it's often the opposite.
Sometimes I wish I could just send these moms a better man, lol.
And it's crazy how much pressure they put on themselves and how much institutional sexism hurts women. I mean, three separate breakfasts?? I totally understand her reasoning re her background and the things she didn't feel she got in her own life-- I totally feel for her--but it's just making things infinitely harder.
These are three very competent women-- I was impressed by every single one of them. If they're crumbling under the stress, that says so much.
But we have to stop taking it easy on the men. I feel like this could be me if you take my DH out of the picture, but with him doing the things he does, it's a different ballgame.
I think the point of the article -- and the pandemic in general -- is that it's revealing what was always there. The dynamic of these families was probably exactly the same pre-pandemic with the moms taking care of most things. And they're not unique. That's most women, which is why this is a broader societal issue about division of labor, expectations, etc.
I mean, yeah. I didn't mean to imply otherwise. I was raised in a different culture (with its own pros and cons--some huge cons) and it's sometimes just so glaring to me that in American culture the "good mom" has to be pretty much everything to everyone, whereas if the guy just brings home a paycheck, it's all good and his job is done. I'll get flamed, but I do think we women are at least in part complicit in that, or maybe we're just brainwashed.
But let's definitely keep schools remote until every teacher on Earth is at zero risk for contracting any illness, ever.
What's the issue with making sure the teachers are vaccinated first? I'm kind of out of the loop on how the vaccine process is going (since I'm not even eligible yet, lol), but do teachers want to wait for the vaccine? Do they not meet the threshold for elibillity for the first round? Genuinely curious.
@anonymous I have no issue at all with teachers wanted to be vaccinated before they return, but I've read multiple articles quoting teachers and union heads saying they won't go back until KIDS are all vaccinated, which won't happen before 2022.
@anonymous they (schools, unions) are thinking of every excuse, every reason so they can be remote as long as possible , possibly forever
I didn't need to read this article to know that life as a mother during this pandemic is a brutal hellscape. But I'm glad it was written, and thank you for posting it.
I sent it to my boss.
@anonymous HAHAHAHAHA!!! I love it :)
I was especially in awe of the woman with 2 kids, on ASD. she was amazing.
I just noticed the kid hanging from the closet bar while the mom tries to work -- so funny. But also so real. This can be really, really, REALLY hard friends.
I love the photo of the mom helping the toddler go to the potty while the dad is in the next room sitting at his desk.
@BrooklynMom HAHA! A friend told me the most hilarious story: do you remember the scene from the Incredibles where the mom is screaming, BOB! I need you to ENGAGE! we were laughing and laughing about that and she said that the other day, she was telling her DH -- screaming from another room -- PLEASE HELP! I NEED you to come out and ENGAGE! and her little dc said, Hold on Mommy. Alexa! Broadcast! and then dc whispered: ok, now say it again. HAHAHAHA!!!
Oh, man--I didn't listen to the audio, but read the article, and it actually hurt to read.
But again, WTF with these men? In at least 2 of the 3 cases, the fathers are not really pulling their weight as parents. I don't care if they're the breadwinners or how many jobs they work--a mom would feel compelled, even in those situations, to actually parent her kids. Making less $$ at a job doesn't necessarily mean the expectations are loosened, and any adult knows that. In fact, it's often the opposite.
Sometimes I wish I could just send these moms a better man, lol.
And it's crazy how much pressure they put on themselves and how much institutional sexism hurts women. I mean, three separate breakfasts?? I totally understand her reasoning re her background and the things she didn't feel she got in her own life-- I totally feel for her--but it's just making things infinitely harder.
These are three very competent women-- I was impressed by every single one of them. If they're crumbling under the stress, that says so much.
But we have to stop taking it easy on the men. I feel like this could be me if you take my DH out of the picture, but with him doing the things he does, it's a different ballgame.
I think the point of the article -- and the pandemic in general -- is that it's revealing what was always there. The dynamic of these families was probably exactly the same pre-pandemic with the moms taking care of most things. And they're not unique. That's most women, which is why this is a broader societal issue about division of labor, expectations, etc.
I mean, yeah. I didn't mean to imply otherwise. I was raised in a different culture (with its own pros and cons--some huge cons) and it's sometimes just so glaring to me that in American culture the "good mom" has to be pretty much everything to everyone, whereas if the guy just brings home a paycheck, it's all good and his job is done. I'll get flamed, but I do think we women are at least in part complicit in that, or maybe we're just brainwashed.
@anonymous There isn't a culture on the planet that doesn't elevate men over women in some way. It's a man's world as they say.
The article by the psychiatrist was spot on. Spot. On.