My 77 y/o mom was just diagnosed with colon cancer. The tumor was big enough to totally block the endoscope during the colonoscopy. CT scan will be later this week. This is probably the beginning of the end, isn’t it? If COVID wasn’t going on I would hop on a plane right now but with the virus and our jobs (DH can’t work from home) and no daycare I am at a total loss for what to do in this moment.
Wow, that sucks so much! I'm so sorry! Does she have anyone there who can be with her while she goes through this?
My dad is there but he kind of sucks. Schizotypal personality disorder type and I am sure he will cause additional stress for her in with his episodes. They have some family friends in town. I don’t know...
If I were you I would go. Take the kids too. This sounds bad.
And I’m really sorry for you. I am close with my mom, and I live in fear of the day I have your news. praying for you
colon cancer does not have to be a death sentence - but I would absolutely go! hire reliable childcare and go.
I agree which is why I think she needs to advocate for her mom. CC is beatable in many circumstances. GL to op
I am so sorry. Of course there is hope. I would absolutely travel to her. The risk is not that high if you take precautions. How old are your kids? I would ask around all my friends and "borrow" someone's reliable nanny for a few days. I'd let you hire mine if I knew you.
could you speak with her doctor and find out when the most optimal time to go would be? i'm not sure that they would let you accompany her in the hospital on the day that she goes for her scan. would it be better for you to wait to go after her scan when you could talk with her doctors in person if they let you in the hospital? does she go to a church or synagogue? does the church or synagogue offer support at times like this? could you speak with a social worker at the hospital where she would be treated? the pandemic makes things harder. i'm sorry that you all are facing this.
I’m so sorry. Go. You won’t be sorry. What I found with my own parent is that the best time to be there is when a lot of information is going to be shared. It’s hard to digest and retain all of it. So maybe around the time of surgery and then afterwards? Best of luck to you. Hugs and prayers.