My husband is Taiwanese and our kids barely look like me ;) Living in NYC, I barely get any comments but today a woman at brunch (my DH wasn’t there) said how amazing I was for adopting. LOL. Said they were mine and she just couldn’t believe they were half white. Didn’t know what to think about that but... awkward! Has anyone made weird comments to you if you have mixed-race kids?
I'm a white woman with a biracial (half black) child who looks black and I have had people ask me where she was adopted from.
Gosh I assume the woman was very oLD?! I guess you need to think of a Quick response in case it happens again
The idea of children being "mixed-race" is unscientific and unhelpful. We should really drop this idea altogether. I've had people make racist or silly comments about my kids but I gently correct them. Don't adopt the language of exclusion and racism.
Do you consider it racist to ask if your children are mixed race?
I don't consider it racist I just think the person is misinformed about what race actually means. In the past I've identified my spouse's ethnicity and corrected them on the idea of race. "I'm from this country and my spouse is from this country." You can't stop people from being racist or misinformed but you can refuse to play the "race" game.
I've had people question the parentage of my same-race dc. What can you do. People are weird.
I was once mistaken for the au pair. It was very annoying. Kids at camp used to tell my little DD that she was adopted. She is 100% my own DC.
As long as people aren’t being rude about it, don’t take offense, be gracious and explain as appropriate for the context. Most people mean well. My kids are also
half Asian (DH of Chinese descent) and by and large white people can’t see ”mixed” and only see Asian. My younger DC even has lighter brown hair than mine and only Asians seem to be able to readily see that my DCs are mixed.