There’s a mom in our school who used to be nice to me a few years ago. Then she started to snub me very obviously for no apparent reason to the point that she would pretend she didn’t know me or didn’t see me, which has gone on for the last few years. She reached out to me this week as she’s trying to get a job in my industry and wants me to help her. WWYD?
I would ignore her.
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Eh. I would help her. Be the change you want to see.
You are a better person than me. The way this post was written, the mean mom is absolutely using OP and I don't believe in rewarding people's negative behavior. I guess you have never run into others who are blatant users before.
@MidtownMom ITA with this. Also, do you really want to help someone who is clearly a backstabber? This could come back to bite you in your professional field. I would do it for something smaller, like a school event she is organizing. But this is serious, why bring trouble to your career?
@Anon this is good advice
I think people have a lot going on. I'd like to think I'm a kind person, but I'm also overwhelmed and so I might come across as "not seeing people". It seems like she was passively mean rather than actively mean, and this could be attributed to something other than ill feelings towards you.
@Anonymous OP this has been going on for a few years
Do you think she has the right skill set? Any endorsement you give is a reflection on your reputation.
@Anonymous OP I’m not going to be endorsing her, she’s trying to get into a new role and wanted me to help her think it through.
@Anonymous then there's your answer. So - no.
Ignore.
I'm very big on not endorsing when i think it will affect my own career poorly. I don't want someone coming back to me asking why I recommended so and so when they do a sucky job.
@Anonymous this is good advice