I got a new boss about a year ago and I've never hated working for someone this much in my life. I'm currently the sole programmer on an under resourced tech project with a tight deadline that should have a team of 5 programmers. Boss is totally non technical. I'm really high performing and they are used to me carrying huge projects myself, but I've started working on a degree, so I've started to push back and set boundaries because I can no longer work long hours and weekends. I have been warning them for a year that I would be working on this degree so would have to cut back on hours, so it's not a surprise.
Every day boss argues with me about what's reasonable for me to finish, asks me to kill myself to meet her deadlines, though she has no idea the technical challenges and deadlines are arbitrary (leadership has confirmed deadlines are flexible). She argues with me about whether or not I should take days off or take vacation. She frames it all in touchy feely manager speak to make it seem like she's trying to be helpful. Worse, we have bi weekly one on ones where for months I've said the workload is not okay and that I am struggling, especially with covid stress on top of it, and she simply disagrees with me.
The prob is job is very stable with great benefits, though pay is significantly under market. It's a major public university, and I am getting a tuition discount on my degree because I work there too. I could easily find something else full time, but worried anything else would be even less accommodating of me being in class part of the day two days a week. Also just worried the bottom is going to fall out of the economy even more and where ever else I go won't be around in 6 months.