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Jan 16, 2021
If your 5-year-old says she doesn't want to go to an all-girls school, but you think it would be best for her, do you send her?
If your 5-year-old says she doesn't want to go to an all-girls school, but you think it would be best for her, do you send her?
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Yes. they change their minds all the time at that age. be a confident leader!
Yes, at that age, the decision is yours and shouldn't involve your daughter.
My DD said the same. A SS school is our second choice. If we don’t get out first, she’s going to the SS school. I wouldn’t think twice about it.
A 5 year old does NOT get to make any decisions about her education.
I would certainly ask why and take her seriously. My now 6 year old would have been perfectly able to articulate why this wouldn’t be right for him btw and he would be correct. Make her feel heard even if you choose.
I would discuss it with her. What's going on to make her feel that way? Why does she think she wouldn't like it? What does she think she would like about a co-ed school better? There's some reason or feeling or fear she has that's driving this and it's important to understand what it is and solve for it. Maybe she has a best friend in preschool and she's worried she will lose that friend, as just one example. I would explore. I wouldn't just ignore and brute force it.
We haven't discussed the option wwiht our almost 5 yo boy and we're seriously considering ss school. I don't think he can make a decision yet nor really understand the implications. He loves girls and playing with his bff st school (girl) but I don't know if that's reason enough to only consider coed. I think if he hated it we reevaluate it later.
this was my son who ended up at co-ed and continued to have good female friends all through school (still does in college). I think he would have been unhappy with only boys, and that having female friends was good for him.