where are your Families? That would be our biggest consideration.
We are in NYC and will stay, remote or none. This is where I grew up: this is home. Also, my kids are in MS and HS and it would be hard for them to change.
If I were permanently remote, I would stay in NYC for the simple reason that I enjoy living in NYC. It's just a fun place to be. If I could live anywhere, why would I want to live in a purely residential area? Wouldn't I want to be somewhere with things to do, places to go?
As for the question above about where my family is, I think the ability to work remotely is a great situation for living far from family, because you have the flexibility to go and visit them for long stretches.
I’m born and raised in NYC, but where I choose to live depends heavily on the ease of lifestyle. I have three young children (oldest one is 6), so if I were suburb-bound, I would have done it already. However, I chose to live in NY because I value walkability and accessibility. I don’t care about Broadway shows, I dont’ get to go out to restaurants because I have young kids, so all of that was minimized.
But as things are right now, the cons of living in NYC (DOE, high taxes, crime, even having to wait to get into a supermarket - can you imagine in the winter???) outweigh the pros. And I even have family here, but I can’t even visit them because of the virus!
So we’re moving out of state for a year and will reassess.
I posted above about staying, and when I say "things to do" I don't mean restaurants and Broadway. I feel that just walking down the street, interesting things always happen. We can head out to Central Park and always find something new and interesting.
@Anonymous No, I understand, and I am the same way. I think a lot of this decision really hinges on the ages of people’s kids. If they’re older and more ‘rooted’, it’s much harder to leave. That, and I assume parents could have some of their lives back when kids are older, and be able to enjoy the perks of the city. But for my situation, it makes everything too difficult and unpleasant at this stage.
@AnonymousNYmom And you haven't even really tackled the school thing yet. Get out now and you will look back and thank your former self.
If I had smaller kids, I would definitely move from NYC.
I would consider moving out of the country.
As long as my kids get into good high schools I see no reason to leave NYC. We all love the city and DH and I do not want to live near our families (certainly not where they live now).
If everything goes to hell maybe we would leave the country or, in a truly dire situation, chuck it all and buy a sailboat.
Just curious- how many different places has everyone lived? We tend to like what we know and while I do love certain things about nyc, I have lived in enough places in and outside the US as an adult to know that I can be really happy in a lot of different places. Our kids loved walking around nyc and going to shows and taking the train to school. Now they love riding their bikes unsupervised (ages 8 and 12), skiing 3 times a week in the winter, and being outdoors all summer.
I guess what I am saying is that I‘ve lived in tiny towns and cities bigger than ny, and you never can tell what they are like until you give it a chance.
I've lived in 3 countries, from a town to cities to big cities. I'm definitely a big city person. I would consider smaller cities in Europe, but not in the US.
I grew up in a crappy "city" of 100,000, was an exchange student in Tokyo and have been in NYC for 25 years. I do not want to live in a place where I have to drive to the grocery store or where the kids need a ride to school. I'm old enough to realize that I am not willing to budge on this.
It's so interesting -- I feel the opposite of you, which is that I have lived in many places across the United States (five different states and multiple cities within) growing up and that is how I know that no place is like NYC. Diversity is really important to me. I hated the suburbs and did not like other cities as much. It's funny when I see people who have never been outside of NYC about to move to the South who are trying to convince themselves that it's going to be great.
Born and raised, we moved. DH WFH, I resigned and we are all very happy. Coming for a visit for thanksgiving since kids have that whole week off.
Where did you go?
@AnonymousNYmom we moved to Cary, NC in May, most of my neighborhood is either from CA or NYC/LI.
@Anonymous Ha, that’s so funny, I looked at houses there because it sounded like there were a lot of transplants. Good to know, glad you like it!
I'd consider the Barbados offer of a year visa to work remotely and then come right back to NYC. But a regular suburb? No thanks.
But what about if you need healthcare? I couldn’t imagine many people taking up these islands’ offers because if they do get sick, what then??
Suburbs could be boring, but we’re looking at ones very close to a big city. NYC is not much fun when you’re confined to an apartment.
@NYCMom I am sooo sad about not being able to walk everywhere, but seems like I wouldn’t be doing much walking in NYC either, anyway.
@AnonymousNYmom Let's hope this a temporary situation. Scientist friends are telling me spring of 2021 for a safe vaccine...