We have sex about once a week, but dh is saying that’s not enough. WTH? This man is driving me nuts. Not only does he treat me like crap but he’s also so demanding. I feel like crying. I can’t believe I’ve wasted so many years with this man.
Maybe twice a month? But the last time was in August. Both age 40, both with young kids, and I work shift work (odd hours) in an ER. I'm just so tired all the time. I know DH would like more, but he's never brought it up.
op: your dh sounds normal. Mine is just an expert at making me feel like crap. Once a week I think is pretty normal but I think he‘s unhappy and wants to pass it on to me.
Used to be about once a week, but since the lock down it has been more infrequent. We have teenagers who stay up very late, and live in a small apartment with no privacy. Frankly, since menopause, I have no interest. DH would like it every day, but there are plenty of things I would like (DH to be more ambitious and earn more money, for example), but as the Rolling Stones said, you can't always get what you want.
Op: once a week is normal imo. He wants me to be superwoman and feels like he’s using anything to just move on from the relationship. We already separated once during the quarantine and I think he feels he’ll be happier without me and dc. He wants to be a weekend father I believe in my heart. He works odd hours so doesn’t see dc during the week and always has something to do on the weekends. He’s never around us on purpose it feels like.
2 or 3 times a week. The constant family togetherness has definitely sapped my libido. I'm more in the mood if the kids have been away at school or sport practices.
I'm sorry to hear that, but if my DH treated me like crap then I wouldn't have sex with him at all, so that should be the focus. When DH and I are on good terms we're having sex about 3 times a week, but he would like to be doing it 5 times, which I'm just too damn tired for. Frankly I would be happy with once a week, but I try not to always say no. If we're bickering, which has been more frequent lately, then I don't want it at all bc I can't fake my emotions. I can't understand how your DH could treat you like crap and then still think he's entitled to any sex.
Op: exactly how I feel. He definitely asks for sex more than once a week and I just say no. I can barely stomach once a week because he’s even nastier when we dont have sex at least once a week.
Can I have someone's husband? Mine never initiates. It seems like he could probably go the next 10 years without. And no, he is not cheating. We're in our early 50's. I would be happy to do it 1 x 2 a week.
You can have mine, but he's only 38. Good god. I swear it is like every fucking night trying to have sex. I have a Mirena (which we need me to have) so I just don't want it. I feel bad. I love him and he is handsome but I just can't drag myself to do it more than once a week. COVID depression isn't helping.
Maybe twice a month? But the last time was in August. Both age 40, both with young kids, and I work shift work (odd hours) in an ER. I'm just so tired all the time. I know DH would like more, but he's never brought it up.
op: your dh sounds normal. Mine is just an expert at making me feel like crap. Once a week I think is pretty normal but I think he‘s unhappy and wants to pass it on to me.
Used to be about once a week, but since the lock down it has been more infrequent. We have teenagers who stay up very late, and live in a small apartment with no privacy. Frankly, since menopause, I have no interest. DH would like it every day, but there are plenty of things I would like (DH to be more ambitious and earn more money, for example), but as the Rolling Stones said, you can't always get what you want.
Op: once a week is normal imo. He wants me to be superwoman and feels like he’s using anything to just move on from the relationship. We already separated once during the quarantine and I think he feels he’ll be happier without me and dc. He wants to be a weekend father I believe in my heart. He works odd hours so doesn’t see dc during the week and always has something to do on the weekends. He’s never around us on purpose it feels like.
@Anonymous If you can have sex with this man who treats you and your kids this way once a week, then you are indeed superwoman.
Op: tell me about it....
2 or 3 times a week. The constant family togetherness has definitely sapped my libido. I'm more in the mood if the kids have been away at school or sport practices.
Now THIS is a UB-type topic.
I'm sorry to hear that, but if my DH treated me like crap then I wouldn't have sex with him at all, so that should be the focus. When DH and I are on good terms we're having sex about 3 times a week, but he would like to be doing it 5 times, which I'm just too damn tired for. Frankly I would be happy with once a week, but I try not to always say no. If we're bickering, which has been more frequent lately, then I don't want it at all bc I can't fake my emotions. I can't understand how your DH could treat you like crap and then still think he's entitled to any sex.
Op: exactly how I feel. He definitely asks for sex more than once a week and I just say no. I can barely stomach once a week because he’s even nastier when we dont have sex at least once a week.
Pre pandemic 3x week or more. Now. 1x or less. So much stress. Financial issues, sick parent, small space...
probably 3-6 times a month
Yup never.
Can I have someone's husband? Mine never initiates. It seems like he could probably go the next 10 years without. And no, he is not cheating. We're in our early 50's. I would be happy to do it 1 x 2 a week.
You can have mine, but he's only 38. Good god. I swear it is like every fucking night trying to have sex. I have a Mirena (which we need me to have) so I just don't want it. I feel bad. I love him and he is handsome but I just can't drag myself to do it more than once a week. COVID depression isn't helping.