I just feel like I’m in this cycle where everyone is doing something wrong so I feel like I’m in a constant state of annoyance and irritation. Not ever with dc but with various adults. Examples: Caregiver came over with a cold and got all of us sick. Sent her home as soon as I realized but it was close to end of day by the time I noticed the sniffling, congestion, etc. Doctor forgot to run a lab test we specifically discussed so now need to do the whole routine over again. Paid a fortune to have what can only be described as a Charlie Brown Christmas tree delivered, sent it back, and got a replacement that is better (hard to be worse) but only just. Working on a project with someone who is very excited about something that contradicts our fundamental project objectives. Spent 30 minutes on the phone with shipt because they rescheduled a delivery to tomorrow am (which is fine) so I wanted to move another delivery I have coming to the same timeframe (tomorrow am, 11am). they messed up and booked it for 11 pm tonight so now I’m back on permahold. I could go on. How do I break this feeling of unabated annoyance? Any ideas?
Breathe, unwind or meditate. We’re all on edge right now
That‘s the thing. I don’t feel like it’s me being on edge. I feel like it’s people just being disappointing on the most basic stuff.
lol it can’t be you, it must be everyone else..
I’ve told you what happened in the last 24 hours. If you think it’s all me, your expectations of basic job performance are low.
No ideas on how to break the cycle/feeling, but know that there are many others right there with you, sigh. DC's class had a child recently test positive, we've spent so much time and money testing DC and our family (all negative) but still required to quarantine for 14 days. DCs are grating on my nerves like never before. We just canceled our only real vacation this year which I've been looking forward to since this all started in March...I'm normally a cheerful, happy person but like you, I'm irritated and annoyed by everyone and everything! I'm trying to practice lots of gratitude but this is just so hard.
Ugh! That is annoying. Hang in there.
I feel like this all the time!!! I think it is bc we have 100000% too much to do. If you only had to deal with the number of issues that were manageable you’d be ok but we all have to deal with 15+ hours a day of insanity esp if we work and so when companies or people inadvertently add pressure to that it becomes so stressful
OP here and think this is it exactly. I’m working a solid 65-75 hours a week plus doing stuff at home. I sleep 5-6 hours a night. When stuff like this happens, it’s so upsetting because I DON‘T HAVE TIME FOR THIS. I don’t have time for my entire family to be sick because caregiver made a thoughtless choice. The doctor was like, eh, it’s ok we‘ll just do the test again. Send me the specialist’s information and I will call this week to see if this is necessary. Ok so because you effed up, now I get not one, but two more things to do. And it took days of prep for this lab work and now we have to do it all over again?! It IS a big deal because I don’t have time to be redoing stuff over other people‘s mistakes. I didn’t say that of course, but that’s what I was feeling. So even small stuff becomes a headache. The tree people were anxious to fix the mistake, which is great, but they brought a different type of tree that is known to shed and then forgot to shake it before delivery so there was a carpet of needles, little insects, a nest, and all kinds of other stuff on our floors. Which I don’t have time for!!! And dh is down with a man cold thanks to caregiver so I‘m on my own. He works like a fiend anyway. So I think this is it exactly. You are exactly right. 1,000%. It’s the lack of time that makes this so, so much worse.
But what can we do about it? Having less to do is not an option. I am buried in work through the end of first quarter next year. what can I do? I try to be super clear about stuff but then people just don’t do as expected.
I think I too would be pissed off so maybe start by recognizing you are normal and be a bit kinder to yourself. Is there anything you can do to unload some of this pressure? Do you need to work that many hours, sleep so little? Can you make some hard boundaries? It sounds like this is more than anyone can handle.
Thank you for this. I am grateful for so many things, but it’s a lot. One work-related byproduct of the pandemic is that tons of deliverables from the end of the first quarter through the end of the second quarter got pushed to the third and fourth quarters. So i and many people I know are working double time and there is no way to delegate or get rid of it. And this is less than Q3 where the team was working almost around the clock. The irony is that after it’s all said and done, there are going to be massive layoffs. What can you do. grateful to be employed but this is tough. One DF in the same boat but with dc and sick parents to care for said she would welcome being laid off because she just can’t take it anymore. She will work 12 hours and then spend the next 5 hours on children and parents. I think the mental and physical effects on women is one of the very serious consequences of insufficient familial support in this country.
you sound like me Re the job. Finance. Scary times. Honestly? I would (and often do) lose my shit over things you described. The Covid testing thing especially - what a pain in the ass.
I am trying to empathize here, but you are essentially describing the frustrations of first world problems. Other than the issue at work, you essentially described all of the complications when you DELEGATE your entire life. Gain some perspective. There are a lot go people doing a lot of these things without help and with no expectation of getting help. Do they get frustrated? Sure. But somewhere in there, you have to be grateful you have the means to be annoyed by The Help. I hate to say it, but privilege really insulates people from high competence in many areas of life.
She's working 65 to 75 hours a week. Plus kids. That's a lot. Yes, she is privileged to have help, and I am sure she is grateful. Still, we can acknowledge that she's having some irritating experiences right now.
This is nothing to do with competence, though I know you’d like to believe it is. It’s an allocation of resources. One of the benefits of delegating is that it does just that — it takes things off your plate. So I am delegating, extremely privileged and extremely grateful to be able to do so, happy to contribute to other people’s employment and the economy since we are paying people to do things or paying more for things we would otherwise do ourselves. But when you do all that and it gets put back on your plate after all, then yes, it is REALLY and justifiably irritating. Just trying to figure out how to manage it.
Agree, OP deserves compassion. Honestly we all do, no matter what we have or don't have - and its not easy to be our best selves or behave perfect all the time, as we've seen here... no judgments from me. ❤️
I've been feeling like this recently. Everything and everyone seems to be annoying me. I had to ask myself, and I the one being the asshole? I came to the conclusion that everyone is going through a tough time right now, and no one is at their best. Hang in there, OP.
This is a really good perspective. Thank you.
I feel like , the past year or so, everyone is such a fuck up! Food orders are wrong, driving is terrible, things are booked incorrectly, etc. This is not Covid bc it was before all of this. It’s possible everyone is just high and stupid from weed. Sorry I’m no help. Just stay sharp and you won’t have any competition :)
Haha! I laughed so hard at this. It felt like a throwback to UB.
I feel like this all the time. You are not alone.
You have to understand everything is thrown off big time right now. Shipping is insanely late, goods are not arriving on time. The people who have to deliver and reschedule are dealing with their own nightmare situations. Your nanny probably doesn't know what is the right thing to in that situation. Maybe she was scared of losing hours. Doctors offices and labs are probably chaotic, short-staffed, etc. I can go on, but you get the idea - everything is totally messed up and everyone is dealing with frustrations. As cliche as it sounds, we have to be happy that we are healthy, employed and surrounded by family.
ITA! Great perspective. The challenge I have is that I really don't have room for error in my own job. We all have frustrations at my work and at dh's work, but we darn well better make sure it doesn't impact the bottom line. But I feel like no one else is operating like that, which just makes it hard all around.
I hear you on the work thing - collaboration is hard especially when you put your blood, sweat and tears into something and someone rolls along and derails it and you look bitter/non collaborative if you don't "listen" to them. I empathize.
That said, I see everything else on your list depending on what mood you are in when they happen. I notice my reaction to things slightly annoying is usually horrible when I'm crabby - so I usually walk away from them and revisit. There is only one you and it's not worth the aggravation - breathe - I feel you.
Thanks for this. Another poster gave me a lot of clarity. It's because I am under crazy work stress and have TONS of stuff to deal with. I dealt with everything in the OP and it's fine -- I'm not overwhelmed or incapable of getting it all done, it's just irritating and additionally stressful to have it added to an overflowing plate. When I have fewer things to do, it's not as stressful. But that won't be for awhile . . .