I just feel like I’m in this cycle where everyone is doing something wrong so I feel like I’m in a constant state of annoyance and irritation. Not ever with dc but with various adults. Examples: Caregiver came over with a cold and got all of us sick. Sent her home as soon as I realized but it was close to end of day by the time I noticed the sniffling, congestion, etc. Doctor forgot to run a lab test we specifically discussed so now need to do the whole routine over again. Paid a fortune to have what can only be described as a Charlie Brown Christmas tree delivered, sent it back, and got a replacement that is better (hard to be worse) but only just. Working on a project with someone who is very excited about something that contradicts our fundamental project objectives. Spent 30 minutes on the phone with shipt because they rescheduled a delivery to tomorrow am (which is fine) so I wanted to move another delivery I have coming to the same timeframe (tomorrow am, 11am). they messed up and booked it for 11 pm tonight so now I’m back on permahold. I could go on. How do I break this feeling of unabated annoyance? Any ideas?
Breathe, unwind or meditate. We’re all on edge right now
That‘s the thing. I don’t feel like it’s me being on edge. I feel like it’s people just being disappointing on the most basic stuff.
lol it can’t be you, it must be everyone else..
I’ve told you what happened in the last 24 hours. If you think it’s all me, your expectations of basic job performance are low.
No ideas on how to break the cycle/feeling, but know that there are many others right there with you, sigh. DC's class had a child recently test positive, we've spent so much time and money testing DC and our family (all negative) but still required to quarantine for 14 days. DCs are grating on my nerves like never before. We just canceled our only real vacation this year which I've been looking forward to since this all started in March...I'm normally a cheerful, happy person but like you, I'm irritated and annoyed by everyone and everything! I'm trying to practice lots of gratitude but this is just so hard.
Ugh! That is annoying. Hang in there.
I think I too would be pissed off so maybe start by recognizing you are normal and be a bit kinder to yourself. Is there anything you can do to unload some of this pressure? Do you need to work that many hours, sleep so little? Can you make some hard boundaries? It sounds like this is more than anyone can handle.
Thank you for this. I am grateful for so many things, but it’s a lot. One work-related byproduct of the pandemic is that tons of deliverables from the end of the first quarter through the end of the second quarter got pushed to the third and fourth quarters. So i and many people I know are working double time and there is no way to delegate or get rid of it. And this is less than Q3 where the team was working almost around the clock. The irony is that after it’s all said and done, there are going to be massive layoffs. What can you do. grateful to be employed but this is tough. One DF in the same boat but with dc and sick parents to care for said she would welcome being laid off because she just can’t take it anymore. She will work 12 hours and then spend the next 5 hours on children and parents. I think the mental and physical effects on women is one of the very serious consequences of insufficient familial support in this country.
you sound like me Re the job. Finance. Scary times. Honestly? I would (and often do) lose my shit over things you described. The Covid testing thing especially - what a pain in the ass.
I am trying to empathize here, but you are essentially describing the frustrations of first world problems. Other than the issue at work, you essentially described all of the complications when you DELEGATE your entire life. Gain some perspective. There are a lot go people doing a lot of these things without help and with no expectation of getting help. Do they get frustrated? Sure. But somewhere in there, you have to be grateful you have the means to be annoyed by The Help. I hate to say it, but privilege really insulates people from high competence in many areas of life.
She's working 65 to 75 hours a week. Plus kids. That's a lot. Yes, she is privileged to have help, and I am sure she is grateful. Still, we can acknowledge that she's having some irritating experiences right now.
This is nothing to do with competence, though I know you’d like to believe it is. It’s an allocation of resources. One of the benefits of delegating is that it does just that — it takes things off your plate. So I am delegating, extremely privileged and extremely grateful to be able to do so, happy to contribute to other people’s employment and the economy since we are paying people to do things or paying more for things we would otherwise do ourselves. But when you do all that and it gets put back on your plate after all, then yes, it is REALLY and justifiably irritating. Just trying to figure out how to manage it.
Agree, OP deserves compassion. Honestly we all do, no matter what we have or don't have - and its not easy to be our best selves or behave perfect all the time, as we've seen here... no judgments from me. ❤️
I've been feeling like this recently. Everything and everyone seems to be annoying me. I had to ask myself, and I the one being the asshole? I came to the conclusion that everyone is going through a tough time right now, and no one is at their best. Hang in there, OP.