Do the adults in your family exchange gifts? I'm thinking about only doing kid gifts this year.
I do give gifts to my brother, sister, mom and dad. I give a bottle of wine and chocolate to my in laws and a gift to my brother in law and his wife. No one has kids in the family but me though. When my BIL has a child, we will stop gifting to him and give to his child.
We host Christmas dinner and stopped doing a gift exchange with non-immediate family a couple years ago. DH and I exchange gifts and of course we get stuff for DC, but we don't need anything and have more than the rest of our families so I felt like it was really gross of us to have them spending money on us, especially those who are older and on fixed incomes. Now we just make a really nice dinner for everyone, if someone wants to bring something to eat/drink they can but it's low-pressure for them and actually lower pressure for us too because less guilt and less shopping for stuff. Win-win.
Yes, especially if we are celebrating together. People exchange gifts purchased on travels, books, local specialties. There are usually lots of charity gifts, like ACLU tote bags and WWF socks.
This year I am sending gifts from NYC restaurants and food purveyors, like spice blends and baking kits.
I love this. I'm not in NY, and I have a friend who has sent me a FatWitch sampler and jars of SaraBeth jam. Such a treat! I've sent her specialty spice blends from my region. Consumable gifts are great, especially when you have everything you need and/or not enough space. I also appreciate when donations are made in my name, especially when it shows that someone knows what is important to me.