I read that the sense of loss you are feeling isn't for the person but for the situation - feeling like you have a partner, etc. Easier to frame that way if you're on board with the breakup but even if not, I think it's good to focus on the fact that you're not sad because of the person but the situation. And then get busy doing other things
Breakups are like a death. It is natural and healthy to mourn, but understand that the feelings will eventually pass. Stay healthy and engaged with the rest of your life and responsibilities in the meantime.
it's VERY hard and might come at you in waves, like grief. try to keep yourself busy doing things you love with people you love (I know, hard in these times). if you find yourself thinking too much about it, try to compartmentalize those thoughts into one period of time per day (e.g. 10 minutes in the afternoon) and not throughout the whole day.
urban baby taught me that it usually takes half the length of the relationship to properly get it out of your system. I found that to be close to true. Time is the ultimate panacea.
When it was me, I would go download the dating apps and start chatting with other guys. I would have no intention of meeting up but it was nice to see there were other fish in the sea.
The cliche is "to get over someone, you have to get under someone else." Not sure I agree with that, but like everything else, it just takes time.
Don't contact your ex or look at their social media at all for the next 30 days. Exercise, start a new hobby, focus on yourself.
I read that the sense of loss you are feeling isn't for the person but for the situation - feeling like you have a partner, etc. Easier to frame that way if you're on board with the breakup but even if not, I think it's good to focus on the fact that you're not sad because of the person but the situation. And then get busy doing other things
Trying to get over UB1.0?
Wait, is that not what this post is about?
Breakups are like a death. It is natural and healthy to mourn, but understand that the feelings will eventually pass. Stay healthy and engaged with the rest of your life and responsibilities in the meantime.
it's VERY hard and might come at you in waves, like grief. try to keep yourself busy doing things you love with people you love (I know, hard in these times). if you find yourself thinking too much about it, try to compartmentalize those thoughts into one period of time per day (e.g. 10 minutes in the afternoon) and not throughout the whole day.
Agree and stay as busy as you can!
urban baby taught me that it usually takes half the length of the relationship to properly get it out of your system. I found that to be close to true. Time is the ultimate panacea.
When it was me, I would go download the dating apps and start chatting with other guys. I would have no intention of meeting up but it was nice to see there were other fish in the sea.
This is good advice. It will make you feel better and at least temporarily take your mind off your ex.