Cheating on spouse; single person in affair with married person. I have been poised to cut off life-long friendships over these scenarios. I'm not the friend who is going to help you find a place to bury the body of someone you killed. Sorry.
Jan 28
Toxicity. I like to be around happy people. Its been decades since I was “close“ with someone like that (narcissistic, insecure, gossipy, unhappy) so I steer clear anyway but that is a dealbreaker for me. Not sure that there is anything that would be a dealbreaker for a close friend now - unless she slept with my husband!
Jan 28
+2. I can’t deal with narcissists and all the baggage they come with. My mom was narcissistic and it is a huge trigger for me.
Jan 28
+1 These people are emotional vampires, just drain energy form you but never contribute.
Jan 28
Tardiness I hate people who are always late. Also negative toxic unhappy unsuccessful people as mentioned above. And liars, I like to be transparent and I appreciate that in others
Jan 28
Wow -- you cut people off for being late? Are you controlling in general? Not being mean, genuinely curious. Because the only people I know like that are extremely tightly wound, controlling people.
Jan 28
@Anonymous np. I also hate people who are always late. The emphasis on always. One it twice it's fine, but if you never make an effort to show up on time, to me it means you have no respect for my time. I am not controlling in any way, maybe more sensitive but the whole point is, if someone is not making me feel good, I don't need them.
Jan 28
@Anon That's so interesting. I never take someone being late as having anything to do with me. It's their time management issue.
Cheating on spouse; single person in affair with married person. I have been poised to cut off life-long friendships over these scenarios. I'm not the friend who is going to help you find a place to bury the body of someone you killed. Sorry.
Toxicity. I like to be around happy people. Its been decades since I was “close“ with someone like that (narcissistic, insecure, gossipy, unhappy) so I steer clear anyway but that is a dealbreaker for me. Not sure that there is anything that would be a dealbreaker for a close friend now - unless she slept with my husband!
+2. I can’t deal with narcissists and all the baggage they come with. My mom was narcissistic and it is a huge trigger for me.
+1 These people are emotional vampires, just drain energy form you but never contribute.
Tardiness I hate people who are always late. Also negative toxic unhappy unsuccessful people as mentioned above. And liars, I like to be transparent and I appreciate that in others
Wow -- you cut people off for being late? Are you controlling in general? Not being mean, genuinely curious. Because the only people I know like that are extremely tightly wound, controlling people.
@Anonymous np. I also hate people who are always late. The emphasis on always. One it twice it's fine, but if you never make an effort to show up on time, to me it means you have no respect for my time. I am not controlling in any way, maybe more sensitive but the whole point is, if someone is not making me feel good, I don't need them.
@Anon That's so interesting. I never take someone being late as having anything to do with me. It's their time management issue.
Define "unsuccessful"?