Im in my mid 30s, divorced, living in the city with a child which I share custody with my ex. I have my own business which is doing well and live a comfortable life. I've been divorced for almost 3 years and recently started dating again (mostly online) but I'm finding it extremely difficult, mostly due to my financial status.
I honestly do not care how much a guy makes, as long as he is able to provide for himself and enjoys what he does. I am however looking for an equal partnership, and if we go out, I want to split the bill or take turns picking up the bill. I usually let my dates choose the restaurant or activity, but I find that after a while (usually after they see where I live or look me/my business up online and have a better sense on my financial status), a lot of men - actually all men so far - start to indicate that they want me to take care of the check or start ordering expensive wine when it's my turn to get the check (I'm not much of a drinker), etc.
I made significantly less when I was single, working as an employee and never experienced this. Most men I go on dates are older than me, most of them in their 40s. Is this just the reality of being an accomplished women?? I know dating at this age (+with a kid) is difficult in general but it's really disappointing to see how the dynamics shift once they sense my financial status...I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone and I can only hide so much of who I am when dating and trying to get to know one another..any advice??