We just moved to a new building and the main doorman is so unpleasant to deal with. Just this morning, he was extremely rude to a guest of mine. Is there anything I can do? It makes living in the building uncomfortable.
Hah, we seem to have similar doorman. One of the doormen at our building is not only rude to my guests but also to us. Very stately being who never helps with packages or groceries and will wave his hands in a flourish saying "its all yours."
Give him a generous tip saying it's a long time until the holidays, but you just wanted to let him know now how excited to be part of the community and to get to know him better. Thank him for all that he is doing in these difficult times, etc. And watch things change thereafter.
OP -- Wow, so I guess this is just the way it is. As I mentioned, I recently moved. The doormen in my last building were lovely people. Went above and beyond everyday. Damn, I didn't know how good I had it.
I am the one who had responded stating I had my fair share of woes with the doormen. No amount of tipping seems to reverse the snooty behavior. Its just back to square one the next day.
I'm a native manhattanite and I think doormen are just the biggest scam. I'll keep my money, thanks. But I know this board thinks rapists are lurking around every lammpost, looking to violate them and steal their Amazon packages.
If you take this route I would make certain that no one in your building has keys to your apartment or storage unit. And make sure you have cameras in the package room, and a camera or another set of eyes on your dry cleaning, food deliveries, laundry, newspapers. Yes, there can be retaliation.
I'm sure. We also got a super fired. He sucked and wouldn't take calls on weekends even though he lived here. and had his kids in our superior zoned public.
Anonymous
Oct 15, 2020
Those superior zoned publics dammit why don't we 1%-ers get to keep them for ourselves!
Hah, we seem to have similar doorman. One of the doormen at our building is not only rude to my guests but also to us. Very stately being who never helps with packages or groceries and will wave his hands in a flourish saying "its all yours."
Mine suck too. All but one. They don‘t help and are not nice
Give him a generous tip saying it's a long time until the holidays, but you just wanted to let him know now how excited to be part of the community and to get to know him better. Thank him for all that he is doing in these difficult times, etc. And watch things change thereafter.
I feel like this is rewarding bad behavior. He was so rude this morning.
@Anonymous No, it's incentivizing good behavior.
OP -- Wow, so I guess this is just the way it is. As I mentioned, I recently moved. The doormen in my last building were lovely people. Went above and beyond everyday. Damn, I didn't know how good I had it.
I am the one who had responded stating I had my fair share of woes with the doormen. No amount of tipping seems to reverse the snooty behavior. Its just back to square one the next day.
@ Anonymous Well, OP is either stuck with horrible behavior or she can try to change it. I would try to change it myself.
I'm a native manhattanite and I think doormen are just the biggest scam. I'll keep my money, thanks. But I know this board thinks rapists are lurking around every lammpost, looking to violate them and steal their Amazon packages.
I would never live in a non-doorman building. Extremely inconvenient for packages, dry cleaning, deliveries, and, yes, safety. But you do you.
@anonymous we lived in a non doorman building and Amazon deliveries were ridiculous. If no one was home they’d leave the package on the street.
Give him this tip, work on your resume and find a job where you’ll be happy!
You could, in the "nuclear option", document all incidents and complain to your managing agent, but please pick your battles carefully.
I took the "nuclear option". I'll let you know how it goes...
Following. Please keep us posted.
If you take this route I would make certain that no one in your building has keys to your apartment or storage unit. And make sure you have cameras in the package room, and a camera or another set of eyes on your dry cleaning, food deliveries, laundry, newspapers. Yes, there can be retaliation.
Don’t tip him during the holidays. Jerk.
Agree. And I would mention his behavior to his supervisor, the condo board, whoever he reports to.
We had this doorman and he was demoted to a handyman.
How did that happen? Did people complain?
I'm sure. We also got a super fired. He sucked and wouldn't take calls on weekends even though he lived here. and had his kids in our superior zoned public.
Those superior zoned publics dammit why don't we 1%-ers get to keep them for ourselves!
That's exactly what I thought about that comment - ha!
@Anonymous +2