Did you ever come across a secret DH was keeping from you, but the secret was really benign? I can't figure out why DH would be keeping his hobby secret from me, but it just looks like at most it amounts to a waste of time. But the fact that he's hiding it confuses me.
I can't confront him about it without letting him know I snooped.
What is the hobby?
There's no reason to hide it unless he's embarrassed or thinks you won't approve.
Maybe all the group’s members are anonymous as well and don’t tell wives/girlfriends.
Is this like an open source project? Maybe he thought you’d say it’s a waste of time so he didn’t want to tell you?
Maybe he just wants something to himself? I have plenty of things I do that I don't share with DH. Everyone needs their own interior life. I feel bad for him that you snooped.
Most of us hid our UB addiction.
Does he not trust you keeping a secret? Maybe he doesn’t want anybody to know and wasn’t sure you could keep quiet?
Does porn count?