I was always attracted to bad boys when I was growing up and ended up marrying one. I knew dh had issues with the law in the past, but we never talked about it. He’s no longer living that lifestyle so it wasn’t an issue for me. Yesterday, he decided to tell me some of the things that he did in his youth and now I’m seeing him in a different light. I understand that he was young and acting recklessly but it makes me see him differently now. Like how could you do that? Even when young? Thoughts? Tia.
what was it that he did? unless it was rape or murder, is it really that bad?
Mass-scale drug dealing? Burglary? How bad is it?
Op: apparently he used to steal from people with an older brother who he reconnected with in his youth. He also stole from his parents. There was no need for him to steal in his youth. He wasn’t rich but his parents gave him what they could afford and he wasn’t going hungry.
Op: Also, before he disclosed this, he’s made comments that he’d steal food if we were going hungry. Now I’m afraid he’s a thief. I would never think about stealing if I was hungry. I would go Hungry. Obviously we’re not going hungry and I don’t think that will happen. but all that he’s said has made me pause and reflect on who the hell Ive been married to for over a decade. But maybe I’m just being dramatic?
you're just being dramatic
You’re annoying. I would hope dh would do anything he could to feed us if we were going hungry. Get a real problem
I was a horrible person when I was younger but now I’m alright. I wouldn’t read too much into it.
Either you forgive him of his past or you don't. If he's genuinely not the same person anymore, it's not your place to judge him. My two cents.
Op: thanks all....he’s definitely not engaging in any criminal activity now so I’m going to put this in the back of my mind. Thanks again!
Sounds like you married the right guy to get you through the Zombie Apocalypse.
ppl don‘t change