This was sad to write so please no flames.
I’m wondering if any of you ladies here have successfully resolved something like this, especially if you’ve been married awhile.
It seems like DH isn’t sexually attracted to me anymore, and I’m starting to think it’s a physical issue and not a mental one. I had 2 big babies who I’ve breastfed for awhile—my stomach and boobs show it—so I’m definitely not “hot”. I’m fit and have never been overweight, but DH is not interested in sex and has trouble keeping aroused when we do. The reason I think it’s physical is that he checks out other women and comments on other women’s bodies, and since we’ve been married he’s gotten more and more into working out and fitness, so it’s not like he’s overweight and oblivious. We occasionally have disagreements but our marriage is fine otherwise. It more seems like his standards have changed and I just don’t meet them anymore. I’ve tried to ask him why he isn’t interested but he doesn’t give me a real answer.
I guess the problem is that I’m content with my body and am not interested in anything like surgery to change it. No I don’t look like a model but I know that major surgery won’t make me any “happier” so I’m at peace with myself. I’m still young and pretty too, so it’s kind of sad he doesn’t seem to appreciate the rest of me. Realistically, is there anything like therapy that could help this situation, or is this just how my life is now?
I would really appreciate any words of wisdom you all have.