DD is 12 and bright but immature. She is fairly new to phone usage and group communications. I check her conversation occasionally to see how she is doing and what is going on. Last night I found two chats, one between dd and a girl who is a casual friend who was being ostracized and a second chat with dd and the group excluding the girl. DD was awful in both chats. She told the girl being ostracized that she couldn’t lose 15 friends to save one friendship and in the larger group chat dd turned on her friend calling her “a needy bitch” and generally being a complete a*hole. The entire larger chat was completely awful, it wasn’t just my dd - it was kind of a mob frenzy and a little scary tbh.
I am so angry and disappointed in dd. Thinking about how to address and what to do. I really don’t think she is generally a mean kid like this but rather that she got carried away in the moment but either way of course this is terrible.
I would really appreciate thoughts on how to address and handle. I don’t think taking the phone away gets to the real issue. I will obviously talk with her about this but want the conversation to have lasting effects. Thank you