So we are middle class - maybe upper middle - we make about 500k combined, work like crazy and raise a family. Dd got into a private school which we have been saving for since birth and still coming up short, but we will make it work at the expense of other things bc it is a good place for her. I am hearing about other families who have kids at this school and omg!!! We are way out of our league. Please tell me it will be ok!

What school?
Good lord lady, tell us the school! and CONGRATULATIONS!
Ha tulane
@Anonymous Sounds fun!
It will be ok. Every school has kids from a wide range of family backgrounds. Your DC will have a great time!
If DC got in, it's not out of DC's league, which is what matters, college is really, really not about the parents, so your league is irrelevant. I totally get stressing about "can we afford" but am frankly mystified by any parent spending any time thinking about whether they are rich enough for their DC's *college* -- it's not like you will spend any time with the other parents!
This! Plus, and not to sound snarky, but you need to get out of the NY bubble. An income of $500K is not middle class anywhere in the country (not even in NY). Yeah, there are plenty of wealthier people in NYC, so you might feel like it's no big deal, but I can guarantee that not everyone at Tulane is coming from that kind of money.
You are mystified????? If this mystifies you, you probably should stick to things like how do gel manicures last so long and other amazing and mind boggling things.