Our friends like Summit
Need more info. Public transportation or drive? How long of a commute will you tolerate? Public or private schools? Diversity or nah?
OP: public transportation probably? Not sure. Would like as short and painless a commute as possible. Open to public or private schools. Just drained by difficulty of city life with sporty kids (schlepping to Randall’s Island, homeless people building forts on the corners, etc)
I hear you. I walked up Broadway yesterday and the city looked like it was dying. Hot garbage smell everywhere, stores boarded up, etc. It was becoming like this the last few years but the pandemic really accelerated the decline.
Rye is a nice community and easy to get to the city on Metro North.
Not dix hills
It isn't a suburb, but friends of ours are happy in Forest Hills, Queens. There are very nice homes, and you can commute on the subway (express train) or the LIRR, which is one or two stops to Penn Station. Of course, you still have NYC public schools, but the zoned elementary schools there are considered good. For high school, our friends' kids got into SHS. Much lower taxes than the burbs.
Do you need to get to grand central or penn station? That determines Westchester vs. NJ. In Westchester, best commuting towns with good schools are Pelham, Larchmont, Mamaroneck, Rye, Scarsdale, Hastings, Dobbs Ferry, Irvington.