Always find myself attracted to men who are not givers of themselves emotionally, very distant but always charming, smart and good in bed. How do I break this trend. Not serving me well.
I'm not sure if this makes sense but maybe your feelings of "needy and pathetic" are internally motivated? Maybe some of the guys are being supportive, but you're not open to it? This is an anonymous board and I don't know you, so obviously this can be off-base.
Attracted or impulsive? Actions are the problem, not feelings.
I don’t understand this at all. I am viscerally attracted to men who are not so good to me. What actions are you referring to?
do you act on your attraction, or are you capable of realizing that's bad idea and not doing it?
I am you. I think the OR is saying that you don't have to act on your "attraction" to the wrong men, even if you "feel" attracted to them.
Often times I don’t know they are dicks Until im already in. Always starts off strong on their end and I relunctant and then somehow I am
left feeling needy and pathetic. Same story different guy. Not sure how to change that dynamic.
I'm not sure if this makes sense but maybe your feelings of "needy and pathetic" are internally motivated? Maybe some of the guys are being supportive, but you're not open to it? This is an anonymous board and I don't know you, so obviously this can be off-base.
"Ghosted"?
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@Anonymous I believe she's asking if you are the same person who was ghosted by a married man. And the answer is yes.
You may be attracted to confidence, and do not know how to value all forms of confidence.
Date a nice person and don’t break up with them for it.
Not an easy thing to do when you're married.