i hadn't logged on here in awhile bc the first days the board seemed slow but i just circled back and had fun reading the post about schools going back and the teacher's unions. i really appreciated all the thoughtful replies. i can't get into youbemom bc it moves too quicky. i'm still not crazy about the layout of this site and having to click on each post to read it but what do others think? have you adapted or?
I'm missing the old UB but that one is long gone and I don't think it can be recreated with a new forum. Not even UB itself could hold on to those golden days. It's fun here at times but also depressing. It needs way more people and if it grows a better layout (no offence to the moderator, she did a great job within such a short time).
Everyone share the link!!
Like others have said, I like the longer posts here as compared to youbemom, but I don't like having to click on posts to read them. I liked that on UB I could look at posts at a glance. I would also like to express appreciation of the moderator.
yes, this. Is it a Wix thing that you can't even open threads in a new window?
exactly this! how can we change this? i liked the idea of a crowdfunding platform to pay for it if necessary. i'd throw in a small donation.
I think the moderator did a great job. I also think it's growing and I like that it seems more NY focused. In its last days, UB was filled with trolls and a bunch of people who lived outside the NY area. I agree that I don't love having to click on every post, but I'm getting used to it. I don't like youbemom.
not adjusted- ub was much more deep and more thoughtful posts.
Lol! I think the responses here are much more thought out as opposed to “you sound fat” that UB used to have..
Were we on the same UB? LOL!
I love it ! Maybe some of you can post on The UES , UWS, Manhattan Mom groups to get the word out
no! don't do this..the site could become unmangable with potentially thousands of people. the good thing about UB was that it felt like just the right amount...and very few trolls!!
@anonymous Agree.
I agree we need more people. But I don't want to open it up to trolls, or honestly, too many non-NY-ers. The trolls ruined UB towards the end and are close to ruining YBM now.
What I miss is the UB snark from the good old days - some posters were truly hilarious - I remember actually L-ingOL.
This! The snark, the wit, the hilariousness of some threads. But also the heartfelt words of encouragement and proper advice. I discovered UB after a miscarriage and remember sitting on my bed with a glass of wine and laughing with tears. If would take me two more years to actually have children but I was hooked.
I think it's the format of this forum which makes the snark less. It's so much effort to open a thread and post, that the quick "one liners" or zingers are not worth it.
@Anonymous great point it is a lot of effort for a quick zinger and i miss those too. ub peope were often so funny even when bitchy
Wasn't there some creating an urbanbaby . net? With similar format to the prior? I think this one was created before the site went down, so not sure what happened to the other.
She was a working mama, so my guess is she fell off and got busy.
I like the new site (great job, Mod!). I also agree that it would be ideal if we could see posts at a glance. It's more work to quickly reply and to see what's happening on a thread. I also used to like that my own posts appeared in a different color so you could scan to see if someone replied. That said, the format of this site lends itself to lengthier replies, which can be nice.
The font is too faint. Too hard to read. I miss UB but more importantly I appreciate that we have a space to gather.
i like that this one allows politics but miss ub. not enough people on here yet and i feel like i can't post the same very niche targeted qs here as i could there.
I like this site!
I'd say both. I miss UB, but I have adjusted and am grateful that NYCityMoms is here. Heartfelt thanks, Mod.
I miss UB, but really appreciate that someone created this as a substitute. Yes, it would be nice if the posts were all visible at once, but that's a small quibble compared to not having anything at all. Thanks Mod!!
Two biggest improvements about this site are that (1) you can log in AFTER you have typed a response and it doesn’t delete it, and (2) you can edit your response after posting in case notice a typo (which I just had to do)
I like this site. It has less entertaining snark than UB but honestly what drew me to UB was the deeper (and anonymous) discussions which are still happening here. I am no longer in NY/NJ (sorry!) but hopefully you won’t kick me out. ;-) I started on UB during grad school a decade ago and the site was a great support to me over the years.
I really appreciate this new site. Better than Urban Baby or YBM ever was. You all are so reasonable and nice! It's kind of a dark time in NYC right now (understatement of the century) so I'm looking forward to more lighthearted posts in the future. I like that people seem to be responding and posting with a little more thought. Thank you SO MUCH moderator for starting this for us! Are there just legitimately no trolls here or is someone weeding out their posts?
I have the same feeling, maybe no trolls yet! I've already had some snitty political conversation here, but it seemed like sincere disagreements. I don't think there's a way to grow the conversation without posting the URL all over sites where it'll be harvested for trolling. I guess people who want to cross-post to their other parenting groups could make the URL into an image, so at least it wasn't text searchable /cut-and-paste?
I find this site to be overwhelmingly boring, uptight, and way too conservative. I come here sometimes but tbh, I don't enjoy it much.
I miss the fact that with ub you can just write a quick post about nothing much and get a few replies - here it feels like the same posts all the time are what we see.