7 yo has super low frustration tolerance, gets upset v easily. Emotionally immature for his age. We are likely doing a neuropsych as elements of adhd - but not inattentive per se so the results are more in the area of social emotional
@Anonymous They're kids. I agree it's something to work on, but emotional regulation and frustration tolerance is something many of us spend our lives trying to sort out. I know you didn't ask for suggestions, but I suggest introducing ways of handling emotional regulation -- like our own personal social emotional curriculum. They just need to learn the skills. The little spot books are good for this. And so is yoga / meditation.
I did. My now 12 yo had social-emotional delay. I remember all the worry and extra help we got him and wondering if he'd ever catch up. He is now a super-social, well-adjusted kid with plenty of friends. I won't say don't worry, because of course you will worry, you're a mom. But I will say, yes they can catch up and every kid develops at a different rate. GL.
that's great! what kind of help did you find most beneficial? The combination of this issue and schools closing/ us being all around each other all the time is a lot.
@Anonymous It is so hard to know what exactly was the most helpful and whether time was the main factor. I think the two things that probably were most helpful were play therapy and giving him an extra year of pre-school to grow and catch up to the kids in his grade in terms of social and emotional maturity.
Like a diagnosed delay? Does that exist? My DS does not have a diagnosis, but he does have social anxiety and I would say just observing him with his peers that he is behind socially. He can't join into free play with a large group of his classmates; he just freezes up and backs off. He's better one-on-one or with a structured activity. I worry he'll be far behind once we all go back from COVID shutdown, but nothing I can do about it now.
What does this mean? Dc is 6. They have a lifetime to mature.
7 yo has super low frustration tolerance, gets upset v easily. Emotionally immature for his age. We are likely doing a neuropsych as elements of adhd - but not inattentive per se so the results are more in the area of social emotional
@Anonymous They're kids. I agree it's something to work on, but emotional regulation and frustration tolerance is something many of us spend our lives trying to sort out. I know you didn't ask for suggestions, but I suggest introducing ways of handling emotional regulation -- like our own personal social emotional curriculum. They just need to learn the skills. The little spot books are good for this. And so is yoga / meditation.
I did. My now 12 yo had social-emotional delay. I remember all the worry and extra help we got him and wondering if he'd ever catch up. He is now a super-social, well-adjusted kid with plenty of friends. I won't say don't worry, because of course you will worry, you're a mom. But I will say, yes they can catch up and every kid develops at a different rate. GL.
that's great! what kind of help did you find most beneficial? The combination of this issue and schools closing/ us being all around each other all the time is a lot.
@Anonymous It is so hard to know what exactly was the most helpful and whether time was the main factor. I think the two things that probably were most helpful were play therapy and giving him an extra year of pre-school to grow and catch up to the kids in his grade in terms of social and emotional maturity.
Like a diagnosed delay? Does that exist? My DS does not have a diagnosis, but he does have social anxiety and I would say just observing him with his peers that he is behind socially. He can't join into free play with a large group of his classmates; he just freezes up and backs off. He's better one-on-one or with a structured activity. I worry he'll be far behind once we all go back from COVID shutdown, but nothing I can do about it now.
You could put him on a low dose of zoloft which would probably help a lot