Thanks - have been married for over 20 years. had a long affair mid way through and just started another. This one is short lived and not going anywhere. both men are terrible people, but I Am attracted to them nonetheless. And am not attracted to dh Who is a good and kind man. Something is wrong with me. I am so dissatisfied. Not sure whar My options and answers are. This is a mess of an explanation, but that’s how my head feels. Help.
You already know the answer. You need help. So get it. You're looking for something you're not going to find where you're looking for it. Is this really how you want to spend the rest of your life? Searching, dissatisfied, and feeling unfulfilled? Because that's how it's going to be if you don't fix what's broken. And here's a hint: what's broken is not dh.
Go on psychology today's website -- they have a whole directory of counselors listed. you can check what type of therapy you need (infidelity). Read through the profiles until you find someone you like and with whom you feel a connection. Michael Grove in midtown east is known for helping adolescents and their families, but he also deals with addiction issues. he's been practicing for 40+ years, so there is literally nothing you can tell him that he has not heard and dealt with before. You might try him. GL. It's good you're at a place you want to fix this. Because how you are living is really no way to live. Hugs.
It is largely emotional - have only seen each other twice. covid is definitely dampening it. we Do not work together. logistics aside, This reply is hardly helpful to me.
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I will too. Tomorrow if I don't see your post tonight. One piece of advice for now: everything looks better and less bleak in the morning. Hugs.
Thanks - have been married for over 20 years. had a long affair mid way through and just started another. This one is short lived and not going anywhere. both men are terrible people, but I Am attracted to them nonetheless. And am not attracted to dh Who is a good and kind man. Something is wrong with me. I am so dissatisfied. Not sure whar My options and answers are. This is a mess of an explanation, but that’s how my head feels. Help.
You already know the answer. You need help. So get it. You're looking for something you're not going to find where you're looking for it. Is this really how you want to spend the rest of your life? Searching, dissatisfied, and feeling unfulfilled? Because that's how it's going to be if you don't fix what's broken. And here's a hint: what's broken is not dh.
Thank you. I know It is Me. I am
not blaming dh. What Type of therapy is good for this? I’m an utter mess.
Go on psychology today's website -- they have a whole directory of counselors listed. you can check what type of therapy you need (infidelity). Read through the profiles until you find someone you like and with whom you feel a connection. Michael Grove in midtown east is known for helping adolescents and their families, but he also deals with addiction issues. he's been practicing for 40+ years, so there is literally nothing you can tell him that he has not heard and dealt with before. You might try him. GL. It's good you're at a place you want to fix this. Because how you are living is really no way to live. Hugs.
Wait, how are you managing an affair during Covid? are you already working at the office?
It is largely emotional - have only seen each other twice. covid is definitely dampening it. we Do not work together. logistics aside, This reply is hardly helpful to me.
Really thankful you recognize the problem and are trying to address it. Hurt people hurt people......
I can totally relate to this post. Although I am in mess myself so can’t give any advice other than good luck !!
Can identify as well. I am in a similar boat. I know that I need therapy.