Or come from a family of angry yellers? I don’t know how to tell what’s normal and what’s not, because I don’t have a temper and didn’t grow up with parents who did. My DH has anger management problems and will explode during fights (over unimportant things, like a miscommunication regarding who was going to take our son to soccer). He yells and gets WAY more angry and worked up than the situation warrants. He starts dropping F bombs in front of our kids and saying things like “should I just leave? Do you want me to leave? I am DONE with this.” He doesn’t actually want to leave our family and doesn’t say anything to me that is truly, personally hurtful, but I get so upset at being screamed at and the swearing, especially when the kids can hear. Then, like an hour later, he calms down, apologizes, and thinks I need to go back to normal too. But of course I stay upset for hours or days and can’t get just “get over” his outbursts right away. So then I turn into the bad guy for still holding a grudge and not moving past it quickly. Every time we have one of these blow out fights, my mind goes right to divorce, because I don’t think it’s healthy or fair to be yelled at that way in an argument. But the reality is that he’s a decent husband and great father the rest of the time, so i don’t think this is actually something to divorce over. Or is it? With the heightened stress of COVID, his patience and temper are worse than usual and he probably has 1 or 2 blowups a month. He also gets really mad and yells at the kids when they are misbehaving, because he has no patience and is high strung, but he doesn’t swear at them or anything. To be clear, I am not concerned at all for our physically safety. Thoughts? Is this normal run-of-the-milk fighting for spouses where one or both has a terrible temper? Or is this unhealthy and not something I should put up with? He says he’ll start therapy (he’s been in before), but we are so busy won’t the kids and remote school etc, it’s hard to find the time especially now. Is this something CBT could really help with?