I’ve posted before about my parents who were neglectful & abusive to me in childhood and adolescence.
I stay in cordial but distant contact with them in case they want to build actual relationships with my own children. So far, they haven’t taken much interest in them beyond a surface level. My mother is harder to keep distant because I suspect she’s a narcissist: whenever I go through a big life change she sends me frantic emails and wants me to fix stuff in her life but won’t take any initiative herself.
They periodically try to control my behavior to this day. Recently I got in a minor disagreement with my father and now they are threatening to cut me off from any inheritance. I doubt they will have anything left over anyway, so that has never been part of my decision to maintain contact.
I am at my limit with them and thinking of just cutting off all contact because they are so upsetting. I have been 100% self-sufficient since I moved out at 18, and they have nothing to hold over me so they say stuff like this.
Have any of you gone this route of zero contact with your parents? This is the nuclear option, and I know they will lose their minds at not having any access to the kids, but I cannot handle the stress they put on me with their solipsistic behavior anymore. My kids have other family so they won’t notice. I’m sort of wondering whether this is worth it because their reactions will be insane. Any wisdom you could offer would be helpful.
I know this was long, thanks for reading it.