My 12 yo dd loves spending time with me. I love it most of the time because I know what she’s doing when we’re together, but it can be tiring at times. Are other dds her age this close to their mothers? She’s an only so this may also be the reason, but she sometimes would rather spend time with me than talk to her friends on FaceTime. Thoughts? Tia.
This makes me sad. My 12 yo always wanted more of my attention than I had to give. Then just in the last couple of months, she has pulled away and wants to be left alone. And I regret all the times I was the one who wanted to be left alone, even though a lot of the time I still sort of do.
op: I hear you. My 12 yo rarely wants to be alone so when she does, I ask her to come sit with me. If she doesn’t want to come, I let her be since it’s rare. Good luck with your dd. This age is rough.
My 12 year old dd wants nothing do with me. :-( Enjoy it while it lasts.
I posted earlier today about feeling down (post subject line was "Venting"). My DD and I have always been close and when she was 12, we did a lot together. Now, at 18, we're still close, but she is more outward looking. Enjoy it while you can, and also make the time to invest in the relationship in a meaningful way. The day is coming where you will be making some "withdrawals" on the relationship account--so deposit all you can right now. As close as we are, we still had some very bumpy years at around 15 and 16. Talk to her, get to know her, establish yourself as a someone she can trust and confide in. She won't always take you up on it, but she'll know you're there. GL.
um yes, I completely relate my 14yo dd has been stuck to me like glue and I find it v tiring too. she likes long complicated discussions about political issues as well. but nice to read these posts bc reminds me to really cherish this time